@anonymously99stwin,
A few observations. First, I am not perfect. I have things that make me very sad too. Life cannot avoid that. For some things in life we need to respectfully be sad until we have grieved enough to move on.
I have heard of a thing called "confessing negatives".
I was once taught a story about confessing negatives.
The story is about a person who gets up every morning and looks in the mirror and says to themselves that they look terrible.
It is confessing a negative about themselves. Then they find another negative and another. They continue confessing negatives about themselves. We all do it and are not aware of it.
It is not enough to just stop confessing the negatives and to start confessing positives but I was taught in so many words that I needed to reverse the negatives.
So instead of getting up in the morning and saying in the mirror I look terrible to instead say, "Behold the glory of the lord!"
You may want to choose different words
Get tested.... Find out what is wrong and what you can do to change things that are vital to your health. Have hope for a quality life.
Reverse our very own negatives. Some we cannot reverse and we have to learn to live with them.
But a person doesn't need to get up every morning and say how terrible they are to themselves. These are things a person can reverse and change.
If a persons says to themselves "I am happy.", then they will "feel" the sensation of happiness.
If someone says to themselves, "I am sad and defeated" then they will "feel" defeated. Our hearts are, to some degree, a slave to our mind. So replace the thought. Some thoughts we cannot replace, they are too strong and primal, they are what makes us who we are.
What we think about, we feel...
I call them "doctrines".
I will never be successful
No one even likes me
I am a loser
The list goes on and on
Instead
I am successful
I am liked by people
I am a winner
doctrines and practices
some practices become doctrines
We as people sometimes practice being sad and eventually make a doctrine out of it. I am sad.
And if we simply replace the thought in the mind with its opposite counterpart (I am happy!) we will "feel" the opposite feeling.
We cannot always change our perspective because there are certain realities to our lives. In order to live peaceably and happy, people need to try and reverse as many negative confessions they say about themselves as they can.