I'm 31 and bad at sex

Good for you mate, you made a home run in the end

i would sugjest to buy some sex movies or like a magizine with some good position tips and learn solid tips instead of rough relationships.!

Watch a vid of "Das Boot" together, and when it blows its ballast tanks say- "Like that!"

Some people just aren't sexually compatible, dude. You may be great at sex with one woman and horrible at it with another. DIfferent psychoemotional problems lead to different sexual needs and fantasies. If you just don't fill that hole for her, maybe you should ask yourself... is this really the right girl for me, for MY needs? Or am I just after the sex, along for the ride, being led around like a little puppy... not really thinking about what satisfies on a deeper level.

Stop thinking about how to satisfy women. Start thinking about how to satisfy yourself.

If there's the right personal chemistry, sexual satisfaction comes easy. And there's someone out there for everyone.
You can't always be the rescuer. Just the fact you were dating while she was with another man tells me you're a bit pussy whipped in this scenario. Think about leaving her, and finding what's really right for you.

Didn't she mind being treated like a lollipop?

I agree to the penetration part, but not to bedding "many women". I heard that not many women can cum from only penetration. Me being one. Don't think it's your fault. Just do different things. She might not know what she likes until you try it on her.

I am wondering if you are a soft lips sloppy kisser?
Have anyone told you that you are a good kisser?

Guys don't give or make girls orgasm. If we're skilled, we can help, but as with other guys, reaching the big 'O' is more psychological than physical.

Since no one anywhere teaches sexual skills scholastically, my advice is watch actual lesbian porn. No one knows what to do better than lesbians. (Note, lesbian porn is not the same as girl-girl porn which may use straight girls doing things directed by men. 'Lesbian' porn proper is lesbian-made by women for women and substantially different.) A good lesbian company is Girlfriends Films, another's Abby Winters.

My recollection learning how to pleasure women was basicly, "Oh...That's the clittoris!"

Okay im a female i freakin love sex if i feel my partner isnt doing something right i am going to guide his azz to the right spot. I am so not afraid to say hey how bout you try touching me here or lick me there. Dont go so hard or do it harder. Why havent these women ever given you guidance to their sweet spot. Not every woman is the same. But every woman has certain things that get them to that point of pure bliss. Listen i dont know why some women think men should automatically know how to please us i just know they should be more vocal about their likes loves and needs. Find a woman who isnt afraid to guide you in sex. Thats what makes if fun. Exploring a d learning. I love teaching and being taught. Thats me though.

This may be reiterating what has been discussed in other posts but specifically with the girl you are dating now, it really seems as if she in not emotionally ready to embark in anything serious with you, which may be what is holding her back from truly enjoying what you are giving her physically. It sounds like you're doing all the right things as far as technique with increasing foreplay and more touching so in that aspect I think you are doing fine. And coming from a women, when I have sex with men, the actual insertion of their penis isn't really what gets me going or gets me to orgasm, I always have to have some sore of manual stimulus and mostly I just take things into my own hands and rub myself down there. Moral of the story is that every woman is different. There is no one technique or perfect way to have sex, you really have to take the time to know someone and understand them as a person and in bed to get that "perfect rhythm" and maybe that's the reason why its hard for you to connect with your newest venture.

Oh dear! You just haven't met a right woman yet.
My friend married the guy with the smallest penis ever.
She loves him so much (20 years of marriage) that being with him is all she needs. He makes her laugh!

My other friend left love of her life for enourmous size! She couldn't take it.
And she was a mother of a child by than - not a virgin.

I am totally head over heals with man with whom sex was awful. LOL
I still want him even if he was in impotent...its emotional connection
that gives me orgasm by just thinking of him. I had never had one and
I am 50. Never blamed anyone because I had sex with a lots of men.
I know it is me.

Stop beating yourself up and keep looking. Don't dwell on wrong women who can't give you emotional connection when you both just dissolving in each other sex or no sex. Good luck!

hey man,

sorry I did not read your post, it is terrible wall of text, just the title and here is solid piece of advice:

get ABS, eat healthy, train hard, get some muscles. Works like miracle. Everyone likes to touch strong, fit body. Don't do roids, people on roids look weird. Just saying.

I have fresh experience that dancers are terribly sexy, when it comes to moves... Take this as solid piece of information, do not doubt about it.

Hygiene, good atmosphere, sense of some romance helps a bit too