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my bestfriend had sex with my ex which one should i be mad at?

 
 
Reply Mon 4 Jun, 2012 08:39 pm
me and my ex were dating for about 7 months and we broke. we stopped tallking to each other for about a month and then started to talk and see each other again. People told me that him and my bestfriend of 18 years were messing around but she told me that they were lies and not to believe them. One day i was at my ex house and he told me that they did have sex three times and that i was in the house two of the time, my best friend told me that they were in the kitchen talking about me but really they were having sex. idk which one i should be mad at him, her or both of them. i mean we werent dating but my best friend knew that we were talking againg and that I i still had strong feelings for him and wanted to get back together...HELP
 
DrewDad
 
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Reply Mon 4 Jun, 2012 08:54 pm
@mickyw15,
My suggestion is... neither.
maxdancona
 
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Reply Mon 4 Jun, 2012 08:57 pm
@mickyw15,
I would be angry at my best friend if he had sex with my ex.
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Eva
 
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Reply Mon 4 Jun, 2012 09:04 pm
@DrewDad,
I'm with DrewDad.


(No, not literally.)
chai2
 
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Reply Mon 4 Jun, 2012 09:08 pm
@Eva,
ditto with drew dad and eva.
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roger
 
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Reply Mon 4 Jun, 2012 09:23 pm
What they said, and anyway, if you have to discuss who to be mad at, it's just not important.
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Ceili
 
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Reply Mon 4 Jun, 2012 09:54 pm
You need to find a better class of friends and men.
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cicerone imposter
 
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Reply Mon 4 Jun, 2012 10:26 pm
I think DD had the best answer. Why should you care at all?
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Mame
 
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Reply Mon 4 Jun, 2012 11:03 pm
@Eva,
I'm with Eva, especially the 'not literally' part.
jespah
 
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Reply Tue 5 Jun, 2012 06:29 am
@Mame,
But if Eva was with DrewDad, who would you be angry with, Mame? Or should we take a vote on it?

Seriously, to the OP - if you're trying to decide on anger, it's not anger. It's spite and, potentially, petty feelings. But anger is passionate and is immediate (usually). If you've got to take a survey on who to be pissed off at, maybe you're not so pissed off, eh?
engineer
 
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Reply Tue 5 Jun, 2012 06:50 am
@mickyw15,
I'd be more mad that they left me cooling my heels in the living room while they went off for a quickie. I guess they don't think enough of your company to delay their romantic liasons (or perhaps they find it exciting to diss you while having sex.)
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Mame
 
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Reply Tue 5 Jun, 2012 07:36 am
@jespah,
Smile I'm still deciding, however, it's a well-known fact that those women from Oklahoma are nothing but vamps.

~~~
But what you said to the OP was right on. Me, I'd dump them both as neither are trustworthy.
Joe Nation
 
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Reply Tue 5 Jun, 2012 08:02 am
I'm voting neither.
I'm also voting "get the hell away from both of them."

Neither are worth another moment of your time.
Keeping all your self-esteem and dignity intact
(because yours is and theirs is down the tubes)
quietly proceed to ignore both of them for the rest of their natural lives.

You won't even have to explain.

Joe(They'll know why.)Nation
Ragman
 
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Reply Tue 5 Jun, 2012 08:05 am
@Joe Nation,
Agreed.

However, sad to say but people in this situation often don't cut the offending parties out of their lives.
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chai2
 
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Reply Tue 5 Jun, 2012 08:11 am
I'm made at ragman.
chai2
 
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Reply Tue 5 Jun, 2012 08:13 am
@chai2,
Actually, I'm in total agreement with what you said ragman.

Someone screws me like that, they are out of my life, with no regrets.

Seems like a lot of people enjoy that pebble in their shoe.
djjd62
 
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Reply Tue 5 Jun, 2012 08:18 am
@chai2,
mickyw15 wrote:
my best friend told me that they were in the kitchen talking about me but really they were having sex.


chai2 wrote:
Someone screws me like that, they are out of my life, with no regrets.


you mean in the kitchen?
Ragman
 
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Reply Tue 5 Jun, 2012 08:30 am
@chai2,
Yeah, I hear you. When you get past a certain age (or level of experience), there is an awareness of what is better social path to follow. Sometimes we (I) can forget that fact.
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chai2
 
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Reply Tue 5 Jun, 2012 08:31 am
@djjd62,
Yes.
That tile floor is way too hard.
Joe Nation
 
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Reply Tue 5 Jun, 2012 08:45 am
@chai2,
Worse.
In one version, I, erm, heard about, they then made salad on the same countertop.

Joe(Pass the Clorox Clean-up. please)Nation
 

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