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How does a perfectly healthy (physically at least) man sit there and watch his girlfriend/wife go to work everyday? .... Or vice versa.

He (or she) sits all day at home, day in, day out, every excuse in the book as to why they are not working. While watching their significant other struggling!.. taking care of both of them.

This is sickening as well as sad.

Every circumstance is different but i'm talking about the men/women who work minimum/average paying jobs (hey, they are trying) .

What is in the mindset of freeloaders. How the hell do they sit there and watch they ones they love (yeah right) struggle like that?

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[+5] - joefromchicago - 01/27/2011[quote="Bayada"] How does a perfectly healthy (physically at least) man sit there and watch his girlfriend/wife go to work everyday?[/quote] It's remarkably easy!

There could be a number of reasons:
1. He/she does not have to work, since household finances are good enough so that it is not necessary.
2. The other partner does not want them to work.
3. The person can't work a 9 - 5 job due to some disability.
4. This person is collecting unemployment.
5. This person is an artist, writer or is doing some other kind of "work" not appreciated by our society.
6. There are children in the home - which is a fulltime job.

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@Bayada,

The mindset could be exactlay as you say -- every excuse in the book in their own mind.

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@PUNKEY,

Agreed and I would also say I'd not call someone who stayed home a freeloader if they did a good amount of work at home. For example, clean the house, yard work, laundry, cook, take care of children. Staying home in many cases is a full time job.

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@Linkat,

Yes, staying home in most cases is a full time job. There are many women and men who do all that, that you have described, and have a full time job.

T here was a short phase in my life i was fortunate enough to stay home with my toddler, and do my chores. There is a certain 'niceness' to being home.

Most of my life, i work(ed) full time+ ... and did all the house and yard work.

Freeloader, as in, example only, a woman getting up Monday thru Friday, in the morning, working as a secretary, 9 hours those days... She has a part time job on the weekend, somewhere, let's say, a convenience store.

Her husband/boyfriend is a construction worker... example only. He has no work at the moment, maybe next week. He might do the dishes, eh, he will mow the grass later, he wants to go hang out with his buddy right now.

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@Bayada,

If it's ok with her, what's it to you?

edit: If you are her, and it bothers you, then dump his sorry ass and move on.

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@JPB,

If it's okay with who? It's just a general relationship topic.

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@Bayada,

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This is sickening as well as sad.

You seem to be passing judgment on folks and their relationships that you know nothing about. I repeat, what's it to you?

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One can only be a freeloader if he/she is allowed to do so. It's the person
who allows the freeloader to be one that is at fault here. The freeloader does
only what he/she does best. So whoever allows it to happen, needs to stop
or shut up.

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@JPB,

I am asking, how does a freeloader sit there and watch their significant other financially struggle taking care of both of them. What is the answer?

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There is no answer!!

It's only a problem if it bothers one of them.

Everything else is just others judging the situation.

Live and let live.

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@Bayada,

First of all, "freeloader" is a pejorative that presupposes the person doing the sitting and watching has chosen that way of life to the detriment of someone else. I imagine there are true examples of that, but you're making assumptions and judgments about people that I think are inappropriate in most cases.

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@JPB,

Maybe i should of stressed the COMMON freeloader, COMMON freeloader in most cases.

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@Bayada,

If it is temporary as in at the moment he does not have work - I see nothing with being a bit lazy and relaxing - take a little break. However, if it expands beyond a week, I'd expect he do a little more around the house to make it easier for his wife. In that respect everyone wins - she has less to do when she gets home and relax more.

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@Bayada,

Bayada wrote:

How does a perfectly healthy (physically at least) man sit there and watch his girlfriend/wife go to work everyday?

It's remarkably easy!

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@Bayada,

Bayada wrote:

I am asking, how does a freeloader sit there and watch their significant other financially struggle taking care of both of them. What is the answer?

The answer is that you are making up stories to fit your bias.

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Every circumstance is different but i'm talking about the men/women who work minimum/average paying jobs (hey, they are trying) . What is in the mindset of freeloaders. How the hell do they sit there and watch they ones they love (yeah right) struggle like that?

Do you think it is only minimum/average paying workers who have "freeloading" spouses?

Do you think that all minimum/average pay families have someone in the family who is "freeloading?"

You even say that you are making up facts to fit your made up story:

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Freeloader, as in, example only, a woman getting up Monday thru Friday,

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She has a part time job on the weekend, somewhere, let's say, a convenience store.

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Her husband/boyfriend is a construction worker... example only.

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He has no work at the moment, maybe next week. He might do the dishes, eh, he will mow the grass later, he wants to go hang out with his buddy right now.

So the answer is you have a made up anger over made up facts in a made up story about people you don't know or know anything about.

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@Butrflynet,

OMG, all that blubbering but no answer. Thank you everyone else for some insightful responses.

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Many people's lifestyles are different from our own, and we should not judge how other couples wish to live their lives; it falls in the category of "none of our business."

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I would have to go with the old argument that no person thinks they are evil. The mindset of the freeloader is that he isnt a freeloader at all. He justifies his actions to himself by any means possible so that in his mind there is nothing wrong with his actions.

If the COMMON freeloader doesnt think they are freeloading it makes questions like how do they sit there and watch meaningless. They do it because there is nothing wrong with it, in their mind anyway

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@Bayada,

I've thought about this kind of situation myself before. There are all kinds of relationships out there, and some people appear to be satisfied with this type of arrangement.
It strikes me as remarkably similar to the relationship of the male lion to the pride. The lioness does all the hunting, while the male lies around looking tough.
I think there are women out there that seek out this type of relationship, they receive the security and protection they desire. Meanwhile they are empowered at the same time, by the man's reliance upon them to do the hunting.

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