@Bayada,
Bayada wrote:
Still learning the quotes, but chai, you ask "What do i want this construction worker to do?"
I don't know because he is fictional, i don't know his 'character' . Is he good with his hands, his brain? Money is tight in his household, is he supposed to just sit there waiting for work, or should he go out and look for ... anything , that will help him and his spouse pay the bills.
And why the 'none of your business' replies... it's just a topic. 'None of your business' can apply to any topic in any forum. It's like saying 'whatever'.
And besides, i think (common) freeloading is a form of abuse. I don't like to see anyone abused, so it might be some of my concern.
I appreciate you asking me chai
When I read one of your comments
"Her husband/boyfriend is a construction worker... example only. He has no work at the moment, maybe next week." I was prompted to ask you "What do you want him to do?"
From that comment I can't assume he's turning down work, or that he hasn't been looking.
You just say he isn't working at the moment, and maybe will be working next week.
Is this possibility of work next week the best he could come across? Maybe it is. If what he knows how to do is be a construction worker, and there is no construction work available, he obviously can't apply for jobs that don't exist.
If you don't know, as you said, what his other skills are, why would you assume he hasn't been looking for other work? Why would you assume he is indeed just sitting in the house? If no one else is home, how would anyone know if he's there or not?
How indeed do you know he hasn't sought out every possible job he could do, and the best he's come up with is the possibility of work next week?
If that's the case, and you don't know it isn't, there' no sense in him looking for work he knows doesn't exist. There's no sense spinning his wheels and creating anxiety for himself.
If the house is clean, and in good repair, (and apparantly you don't know if it is, or isn't) there isn't anything for him to do there. Why not go out with his friends?
As far as the "none of your business" comment I made, look at the context I wrote it in.
I said something like how do we know he isn't providing his wife with some other kind of comfort.
I don't think I need to spell that out Bayada.
If this is a fictional character, maybe he's a fictional character that is there for his wife when she comes home from work, listens to her stories of what happened during the day, gives her a back, neck or foot rub....maybe all three.
Maybe he says "sit down honey, while I draw you a nice warm bath" and tells her how much he appreciates her hard work while he is unfortunately, temporarily out of work.
Maybe he spends part of his day reading interesting things, and tells her about them when she gets home.
Maybe she looks forward to this more than anything else, and loves sitting in a bubble bath while he tells her stories.
Not everyone who is not working, and not looking for work every instant is a freeloader.
Sometimes one must sow some seeds, than be patient until some of them start to grow. If he's looked everywhere he can for work, why not take a break for a few days, before starting again.
I don't believe this is a fictional character, or else you wouldn't have started this thread.
I was not working because there is no work available, but will be working next week if/when it is available, and the dishes are done, lawn mowed, house in pretty good shape, I'd go out and spend time with friends, read a book, go for a walk and generally relax.
