Hey, Can A Woman "Ask To Get Raped"?

Oh?

I had never work for an organization that has broken the spirit and the letter of the constitution including being found out spying on congress more then once.

You need to have cocktail hour after you hunt and peck on a2k.

Though I must admit that incoherence only adds to your entertainment value.

'If You Leave Me, I Will Kill You': The Gut-Wrenching Truth About Guns, Abuse and Murder in America

More than one third of women murdered in the U.S. are killed by male intimate partners.

By Martha Rosenberg / AlterNet
December 30, 2015

Woman victim of domestic violence and abuse. Mature woman scared of a man with broken bottle
Photo Credit: Halfpoint

It happened on Black Friday 2014, at Nordstrom's on Chicago’s Magnificent Mile. Horrified shoppers watched as store employee Nadia Ezaldein was shot in the head at the accessories counter by her estranged ex-boyfriend, Marcus Dee, who then turned the gun on himself. Ezaldein was a 22-year-old University of Chicago student. Black Friday was her birthday. She died the next day.

Like many who kill their intimate partners, Dee was known as a loose cannon and a bully. In 2007, a woman who had dated him sought an order of protection, but did not follow through, not wanting to escalate the situation. “He would basically threaten your family or threaten your friends,” she told the press.

Nadia Ezaldein’s sister described Dee’s use of collective punishment threats. “He called the entire family, consistently texting,” she recalled. He had promised Ezaldein that he would hurt or kill himself.

Six days before the murder, police confirmed that Dee attacked a friend of Ezaldein's at a party, causing a concussion and broken facial bones.

Like many victims of intimate partner violence, Ezaldein did not request an order of protection and was reportedly still friendly with Dee. Since Dee was the son of Chicago police officers, some speculate Ezaldein thought an order of protection would go nowhere. But Ezaldein’s sister requested an order of protection from Dee (ironically in response to an order of protection he sought against her), which claimed that Dee "cracked Ezaldein’s ribs, broke her jaw, ripped her clothing, stabbed her jacket with a switch knife, ripped her boots, bruised her lip, threw her clothing out the window and put a gun in her mouth."

Judges denied both protection orders the day they were filed.

While the Michigan Avenue Nordstrom’s was tidied up and open for holiday shopping the day after the shooting, nine months later the same gruesome series of events occurred in another downtown Chicago location. Police say 44-year-old Alma B. Hernandez was murdered in broad daylight at the AmeriCash Loans where she worked, by her live-in boyfriend Richard Idrovo. A month earlier, police had been summoned to the couple’s Chicago suburban home because of a domestic disturbance started when Hernandez attempted to leave the relationship.

More than one third of the women murdered in the U.S. are killed by their male intimate partners. These brazen murders expose several disturbing truths about domestic violence. First, almost everyone—the victim, the victim's family, law enforcement, neighbors, coworkers—can see the murders coming, but seem unable to prevent them; restraining orders are either not requested or they fail. Second, the killings do not always occur behind closed doors but can happen in busy places where others become victims. (Between 2011 and 2015, women in six different beauty parlors were shot by irate gunmen seeking to harm their partners, and 17 died. Several of the gunmen were under orders of protection.)

Third, the murders are frequently sparked by a woman trying to exit an abusive relationship. And last, the killers are often legal gun owners despite their hot tempers and histories of domestic abuse. Richard Idrovo, who killed his girlfriend at the AmeriCash Loan store, was even a legal concealed gun carrier.

Ask law enforcement officers what their most dangerous calls are and they will tell you “DV” or domestic violence, because of the extreme, unpredictable emotions. Intimate partner violence is often associated with drugs and alcohol and sparked by a perpetrator’s fear of being abandoned when a partner tries to leave.

An early, high-profile example of lethal intimate partner violence activated by a partner leaving was the case of Dorothy Stratten, Playboy Playmate of the Month in August 1979. She was shot to death in a murder/suicide by husband Paul Snider when she moved in with movie director Peter Bogdanovich.

Domestic violence cases are notoriously complicated for law enforcement because victims can be economically or emotionally dependent on their abusers, afraid to press charges because of abusers’ reprisals. In response, safe houses and victim advocates have been put in place and 27 states now mandate that police make an arrest despite the victim’s wishes, if certain conditions are met.

Domestic violence and intimate partner violence seldom end on their own, but escalate from a raised voice to a raised fist to potentially lethal acts. Victims often naively consider a violent act a fluke, especially if it is followed by a period of calm, but intimate partner violence is usually progressive and only gets worse.

Most domestic perpetrators have the classic bully personality, picking on younger and weaker victims, so it is not surprising that domestic violence is often preceded or accompanied by violence toward pets. "Animals can be severely affected by domestic violence situations and many people experiencing violence are unwilling to confide in veterinarians or seek help from animal shelters," says a 2012 paper in a veterinary journal. Fear of harm to beloved dogs and cats often keeps victims in abusive situations. In some states, emergency hotline workers have been trained to ask about the safety of pets. One woman told me her husband found her at the motel where she had fled—and told her that if she did not come home, he would kill the couple’s dogs.

Such emotionally volatile people are described in the book Violence Against Women in Families and Relationships as fearing abandonment, having a “history of some arrests and perhaps sexual assault” and at high risk of “stalking, separation violence and suicide-homicide.” Fewer heterosexual women react to abandonment by male partners with lethal violence possibly because it doesn’t coincide so closely with the terrifying feeling of abandonment by “mom.”

Despite the fact that most women murdered by intimate partners in the U.S. die from guns, the gun lobby vehemently defends the “gun rights” of abuse suspects and people under orders of protection.They argue that gun ownership is a constitutional right that should not be stripped away for a “mere issuance of court orders” such as are given for domestic violence.

An NRA bill in Michigan in 2015 would have allowed domestic abusers—including men under restraining orders—to have guns and even concealed pistol permits until Governor Rick Snyder vetoed it. The NRA also defended abusers’ “rights” in Louisiana in 2015, converging on Baton Rouge to protest adding “dating partner” as a qualifier to a domestic abuse battery law which only named spouses, family members or cohabitants. “Not everyone who got in an argument—had a push, had a shove—is going to come back and do more bodily harm,” claimed Bradley Gulotta of Guns Across America. “We don’t need to rush to take away people’s rights just because they made a mistake.”

The NRA’s Tara Mitchell said a 10-year prohibition on gun owning for convicted batterers violates “a constitutional right.” The NRA’s Jennifer Baker said the bill was “so overly broad that it could make a felon out of a girlfriend who pulls a cell phone from her boyfriend’s hand against his will.”

A few month’s before Nadia Ezaldein’s murder, Chicago launched a new domestic violence program to address such cases of escalating domestic abuse using the police department, state’s attorney’s office and local advocacy groups. Under the program, officers responding to domestic violence calls carry smartphones with instant access to records of previous calls, incidents, arrests and outstanding warrants. This has led to an increase in arrests, better evidence collection and better treatment of victims.

“One of the biggest issues with domestic violence is victims don’t usually follow through. But when you get somebody an advocate to support them a day after [an incident] or even the day of, you’re increasing the chance they’re going to use other victims’ services and come to the courthouse,” said Himagiri Sarma, program director for the Family Rescue Court Advocacy Program.

Still, the victim numbers are daunting. A week after news reporter Alison Parker and photojournalist Adam Ward were murdered on camera in Virginia in August there was another story that got less media attention: seven women were shot by enraged, armed husbands in one week. Only two survived.

Hours after receiving probation for violating an order of protection, police say James Terry Colley Jr. shot and killed his wife Amanda Cloaninger and her friend Lindy Dobbins in St. Augustine, FL. Two days later, Blessing Okereke was fatally shot by her husband in the Bank of America tower in Dallas. The following day, Nuria N. Kudlach was fatally shot at her home in State College, PA and her husband charged with murder; hours later Sonja Wells Raine was fatally shot on her job in Pascagoula, MS by her husband. Also shot by enraged husbands during one week were Francisca Jew at a donut shop in Devine, TX and an unidentified Arlington, WA woman.

If men who tried to leave abusive relationships with women were murdered in public places, sometimes along with their friends and despite protection orders, one wonders if the NRA would still defend the rights of domestic abusers.

One woman who no doubt agrees is Maribeth D’Alauro, wife of Richard D’Alauro, the NRA’s New York City field representative. Maribeth testified on Capitol Hill that she endured years of bullying and abuse from the NRA honcho, who possessed 39 guns when he was charged with assault, harassment and endangering the welfare of a child. His guns were confiscated, but now that the protection order has expired, Richard D’Alauro can own all the guns he wants. D’Alauro’s lawyer says he is the real victim because he continues to live in “fear” that he will be again be “wrongfully criminally accused.”

Martha Rosenberg is an investigative health reporter and the author of "Born With a Junk Food Deficiency: How Flaks, Quacks and Hacks Pimp the Public Health (Random House)."

Oh it guns that you are concern about and men and women killing each other by other means is not important is that your position?

This attempted killing did not involved a gun and it was a woman doing the act so I guess this is beside the point.

Males are indeed far less likely to be killed by their partners then females are but males are far more likely to be murder victims by a 75 to 25 ratio.

The overall murder rate for women is far far far lower then for men.




To sum up in spit of women living with evil men who are indeed more likely to killed them then the other way around they are still far less likely to die from being murder then men happen to be.

Perhaps however they should still turn to sex toys to be even safer from being murder victims then they already are compare to men.

How is it always all or nothing with you?????

The rest of your dirty little post is crap. Pure unadulterated crap.

Actually its you. And your poor English.

An the fact is that men kill more women than women kill men. Especially with handguns. Just another inconvenient fact to knock down your delusions.

Sure men do indeed killed more women partners then women killed men partners yet the overall murder rate for women are far less then for men.

Next who care what tool is used to do those murders be it guns or knives or bare hands for that matter?

As I stated if women would like to lower an already must smaller risk of being murder then men face they can always just buy a sex toy and not enter into relationships with men or other women for that matter.

Oh they would be wise also to not enter into friendships as that is another source of potential murderers and of course keep their distant from family members another source of possible murderers.

Oh yeah? Watch Deliverance.

LOL I am sure that movie is your favor movie of all times but it does not change the fact that the odds of my being a rape victim in the remainder of my lifetime is as near zero as can be.

I would worry about being hit by a meteor before I would be worry about becoming a rape victim.

Who said anything about worrying? You said you could not PICTURE it. Well then, watch the picture!

You're just a nasty bitter little man.

Ex-prep school students call for outside probe of sex abuse
Source: Associated Press


Updated 1:32 am, Tuesday, January 5, 2016

BOSTON (AP) — Former students who say they were sexually abused at a prestigious Rhode Island boarding school are holding a news conference in Boston to call for an independent investigation into the abuse.

St. George's School in Middletown announced last month that it found 26 students were sexually abused by six school employees in the 1970s and 1980s. It acknowledged it did not report abusers to authorities at the time.

Lawyers for some of the victims say their own investigation found 16 additional victims. They say they also identified an additional staff member who abused children and seven ex-students who abused others.

They say they plan to release more information during Tuesday's news conference.


Read more: http://www.chron.com/news/crime/article/Ex-prep-school-students-call-for-outside-probe-of-6736961.php

Nice an investigation way pass the statute of limitation as in 40 to 50 years ago!

Wondering how the lawyers are going to try to get around such limitations and go for the gold.

Isn't about time to stop the abuse of women??????

Journalist's Shockingly Clueless Underage Rape Coverage

He doesn't seem to get it at all, and he's not alone, is he Bill????
By Adam Johnson / AlterNet
January 4, 2016

Ottawa Sun court reporter Tony Spears doesn’t seem to understand how rape works. On Monday, he caused some much-deserved outrage on social media for his glib and clueless portrayal of raping minors.
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It started when Spears sent out a tweet Monday morning breaking the news that ex-Canadian Prime Minister Stephen Harper’s former bandmate, school teacher Philip Nolan, was found guilty of “sexual interference” with a 13-year-old and sentenced to two years in prison. Spears used the word “tryst” to describe the relationship between the adolescent and Nolan, who was 29 at the time:



This quickly led to backlash on Twitter, with many people wondering why Spears didn’t use the word rape instead.





At this point, things got entirely out of hand, as Spears dug an even deeper hole for himself.



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So it wasn’t rape in the “average everyday sense”? What does that mean? When given repeated chances to take back the tweet and apologize, Spears refused, insisting he was right to say the incident “ain’t rape” because of some bizarre definition of consent that allows for 13-year-olds to “consent” from their “subjective experience at the time.” Or something. (Spears declined to comment for this story.)



It’s not the first time Spears has used this type of titillating language to describe sex crimes. In a story from May this year about a 25-year-old soccer coach raping a 12-year-old, Spears called the rape a "tryst” and the predatory coupling a "star-crossed pair":

Tryst with girl, 12, gets coach 5 months jail

The girl's tender age—she was 12 at the time—doomed the star-crossed pair, who struck up an illicit relationship in the spring of 2014.

It culminated in kisses and risque social media messages—messages that Braithwaite's adult girlfriend found and turned over to the cops.

Crown prosecutor Peter Napier said he deserved five months in the slammer, particularly because Braithwaite was in a position of trust over the girl.

[....]

The most eloquent entreaties came from the victim herself, who addressed the court with confidence and poise.

"I don't see myself as a victim," she said.

Rather, she said, it is the justice system that has placed her in turmoil by prosecuting a man who listened to her troubles and treated her well.

"Maybe he isn't this monster that everybody thinks he is," the girl said. "I want everybody to know he's not a bad person."

Spears makes no mention of the fact that a 12-year-old cannot give legal consent in a "pairing" with someone 20 years her senior. Spears' use of "tryst" could be chalked up to a brain-dead rhetorical tic but his follow-up tweets refusing to call it rape, matched with his implicit maturation of the victim, displays a grotesque perception of sex crimes.

Spears, for his part, insisted the act was "illegal and immoral" yet was determined to paint a young girl as someone capable of meta-consent. By doing so, he advanced the pernicious notion that some underage girls are to be treated differently because they're in love with a predator or because they "consented" in some vague, unknown sense to being exploited by men twice their age.

In one last brain dead tweet, Spears seem to take pride in the outrage:


Thankfully, Buzzfeed's Lauren Strapagiel was there to help, tweeting a PDF guide on how the media should talk about sex crimes which everyone, namely the Ottawa Sun staff, should be required to read.

Adam Johnson is a contributing writer for AlterNet. Follow him on Twitter at @adamjohnsonnyc.

High school cancels season after 3 players charged with rape
Source: AP/ESPN

CHATTANOOGA, Tenn. -- After three basketball players were charged with raping a teammate in an apparent hazing incident, a Tennessee high school has taken the unusual step of canceling the rest of the season, officials say.

The Ooltewah High School season has been called off "so that the criminal justice system can work the way we expect," Hamilton County Schools Superintendent Rick Smith said Wednesday.

Tennessee Secondary School Athletic Association executive director Bernard Childress said this is the first time he could remember a school canceling a season for disciplinary reasons.

Three teens face aggravated rape and aggravated assault charges in connection with injuries to a teammate, who underwent surgery after being assaulted while attending a basketball tournament in Gatlinburg. Tennessee law defines aggravated rape as a rape in which the defendant either has a weapon, causes bodily injury or is aided or abetted by another.

Read more: http://espn.go.com/espn/story/_/id/14520526/tennessee-high-school-cancels-basketball-season-rape-charges

High school cancels season after 3 players charged with rape
Source: AP/ESPN

CHATTANOOGA, Tenn. -- After three basketball players were charged with raping a teammate in an apparent hazing incident, a Tennessee high school has taken the unusual step of canceling the rest of the season, officials say.

The Ooltewah High School season has been called off "so that the criminal justice system can work the way we expect," Hamilton County Schools Superintendent Rick Smith said Wednesday.

Tennessee Secondary School Athletic Association executive director Bernard Childress said this is the first time he could remember a school canceling a season for disciplinary reasons.

Three teens face aggravated rape and aggravated assault charges in connection with injuries to a teammate, who underwent surgery after being assaulted while attending a basketball tournament in Gatlinburg. Tennessee law defines aggravated rape as a rape in which the defendant either has a weapon, causes bodily injury or is aided or abetted by another.

Read more: http://espn.go.com/espn/story/_/id/14520526/tennessee-high-school-cancels-basketball-season-rape-charges

How does anyone defense themselves from a charge dating back 40 to 50 years?

That the reason for a statute of limitation to begin with.