Hey, Can A Woman "Ask To Get Raped"?

BumblebeBoogie are you trying to force me to read crazy Occom Bill posting to find out what the hell you are talking about?

Why does this site continue to cater to demented trolls, who revel in the pain and suffering of others?

http://abacus.bates.edu/admin/offices/scs/salt7.html

Statistics on College Rape

One out of four women will be sexually assaulted on a college campus. 1

One out of eight women will be raped while in college. 2

84% of women who were raped knew their assailant. 3

57% of rapes occur on a date. 4

75% of male students and 55% of female students involved in date rape had been drinking or using drugs. 5

http://www.crisisconnectioninc.org/sexualassault/college_campuses_and_rape.htm

"1 in 4 women in college today has been the victim of rape, and nearly 90% of them knew their rapist."

http://www.examiner.com/public-education-in-seattle/sexual-assault-and-rape-on-college-campuses

One in five will experience rape or attempted rape in their four-year college term, according to a 2000 report funded by the U.S. Department of Justice. "I don't think general attitudes about sexual assault have changed in the 30 years I've been doing it," said Rebecca Roe, Seattle-based attorney who specializes in sexual assault cases. "It's very, very depressing."

http://www2.ucsc.edu/rape-prevention/statistics.html

Rape in College
In a study of 6,000 students at 32 colleges in the US, 1 in 4 women had been the victims of rape or attempted rape. (Warshaw, Robin 1994 "I Never Called It Rape")

42% of rape victims told no one and only 5% reported it to the police. (Warshaw 1994)

Of the nearly 3000 male students surveyed, 1 in 12 male students surveyed had committed acts that met the legal definition of rape or attempted rape. (Warshaw 1994)

Of these college males who committed rape (as legally defined), 84% said what they did was definitely not rape. (Warshaw 1994)

In another study, 13% of college women indicated they had been forced to have sex in a dating situation. (Johnson and Sigler, Jnl. of Interpersonal Violence, 2000)

A study of 477 male students, mostly 1st and 2nd year students, found 56% reported instances of non-assaultive coercion to obtain sex. Examples included: threatening to end a relationship; falsely professing love; telling lies to render her more sexually receptive. (Boeringer 1996, Violence Against Women:5)

Of the 22 substances used in drug facilitated rape, alcohol is the most common finding in investigations. (Jnl. of Forensic Sciences 1999)

According to College Crime Statistics as reported on a website promoting self-defense, 42% of college women on campus are raped annually yet tell no one about this crime.

There are 35.3 incidents of sexual assault per 1,000 female students on a campus as recorded over a 6.91 month period (the academic year of ‘96 – ’97) as reported in the 2000 DOJ Bureau of Justice Statistics report “The Sexual Victimization of College Women.”

If the one-in-four statistic is correct—it is sometimes modified to “one-in-five to one-in-four”—campus rape represents a crime wave of unprecedented proportions.

No crime, much less one as serious as rape, has a victimization rate remotely approaching 20 or 25 percent, even over many years.

The 2006 violent crime rate in Detroit, one of the most violent cities in America, was 2,400 murders, rapes, robberies, and aggravated assaults per 100,000 inhabitants—a rate of 2.4 percent.

The one-in-four statistic would mean that every year, millions of young women graduate who have suffered the most terrifying assault, short of murder, that a woman can experience.

Such a crime wave would require nothing less than a state of emergency—Take Back the Night rallies and 24-hour hotlines would hardly be adequate to counter this tsunami of sexual violence.

When you talk about bad sex, I'd make a distinction between bad, as in "it just physically wasn't what it could have been," and bad, as in "I wish it never happened." Call it A) unpleasant bad sex and B) regretted bad sex. Then add rape as C).

OK, drunk-and-regretted-it sex -- that's a B. Unpleasant sex -- that's an A. Misunderstanding sex -- probably an A but maybe a B, depending on circumstances. Plain lousy sex -- that's an A. Forced sex with someone you know is a C, assuming this is truly forced, and not a game. Date rape is a C -- but again, definitions and assumptions play a part. If the girl was drunk and / or goes to his room and gets naked, it's not date-rape. Rape-rape of course is a C.

Do the As and Bs have much in common with the Cs?

I can say that regretted and bad sex have little in common with rape, at least in my experience. There's a sense of shame about both, and that's it. Regretted or bad sex -- okay, you did something dumb, you get over it in a day, a week, you're a little smarter next time (hopefully). So that's my take. Another woman could look at it a lot differently. And she might be right too.

There needs to be some generally agreed upon norms. For instance: "No doesn't mean no if your actions directly contradict what you're saying." But guys have to be real careful about the "she asked for it" defense. Sharing drinks or dancing with someone isn't asking for it. But as far as I'm concerned, getting naked and giving someone head definitely is asking for it.