Hey, Can A Woman "Ask To Get Raped"?

Are you referring to the man who deliberately fathered all of those children with his daughters?

Isn't that case incredible? I don't envy the jurors who will have to sit through his trials. That will be very disturbing stuff to listen to.

I'm talking about that and the judge and all those other animals out there. It makes me so angry sometimes.

It's difficult not to feel angry reading about what these people have done to their victims.

It's such a roller coaster. I feel hope and then I feel angry. I have a really hard time coming to grips with how people can be so cruel and inhuman. I call them evil and they are but it still doesn't mean I understand it. I guess if I feel like I can understand it then it won't effect me so much. People have always told me I'm really emotional and I probably am. But, I'd rather be overly emotional than not have any emotions about it. I'm just in a weird place today. My friend is doing great and I'm relieved and happy but some of these stories are just so heartbreaking.

Another rape on a college campus...the type of crime that dumb BillRM keeps insisting isn't happening to college women very frequently. He should try reading a newspaper some time. The statistics relating to the rapes of college women include all types of rapes, something else Dumbo doesn't understand. I guess the victims of these crimes just aren't important to him--he doesn't think there are enough of them.

I really feel for parents that have kids in school. Their kids obviously aren't as safe as they should be. Is anywhere safe anymore?

Way too close to home (I'm in Louisiana) for comfort.

http://www.shreveporttimes.com/article/20100925/NEWS01/9250318/1060/NEWS01

This is the sort of message they should begin sending in high school--and back it up with discussions about the legal meaning of "consent" in sex ed classes. It emphasizes that, if the girl is drunk, the "manly" thing to do is not to have sex, rather than the notion that her intoxicated state simply makes it easier to "take advantage" of her. Not having sex in such circumstances is also the safest course a young man can take from a legal perspective.

Marvelous ad! It not only empowers women but I think it empowers the men to step up! Kudos to whomever thought that ad up!

Thank God most of the men in this world would never rape a woman. Most men do understand what rape is. A REAL man does, anyhow.

Often when a woman is raped, she is inundated with a barrage of questions. "Did you fight back"? "What were you wearing"? "How much did you have to drink"? "Did you try and kick him in the balls or yell for help"? "Were you intimate with him prior to the rape"? The reality of it is, none of those questions matter. It doesn't matter what she was wearing. It doesn't matter how physically intimate she was with the guy beforehand. It also does NOT matter how much she had to drink beforehand. When a man takes control away from a woman--that's rape. Let me say that again. WHEN A MAN TAKES CONTROL AWAY FROM A WOMAN....THAT IS RAPE! Not a difficult thing for a "man" to understand.

I have learned something this week. Though it has been extremely difficult for me to wrap my head around it. I have learned that you may not always know a guy the way you might think you do. He can be your friend. He can be totally respectful to you. He can be someone that you have studied with. Been alone in his dorm with. Spent late nights working in the lab with. Someone that you have known and been friends with for a couple of years, and that person can still be capable of rape. He can be one of the last people in the world that you would ever, in a million years, think capable of such monstrosities. It has saddened me in ways I can't even explain to you. He was my friend. Not just a friend, but a FRIEND. Been very hard to digest. He did not hurt me. It was someone else. Thank God he was caught in the act. Still--dude was my friend. He truly was always respectful to me. When we first got to know each other, he asked me if I was seeing anyone. I said yes. He respected that. Occasionally, he would ask if I still had a boyfriend, but he never, not once, pushed anything on me, in any way. Sure, he was flirtacious. No big deal there, though. I can't understand how he could be so gentle, kind, respectful with me--at all times, and do what he did. Is my judgement of character that bad? I have been questioning that a great deal this past week.

Anyhow, glad to see that you gals are still keeping this thread going. Also, glad that the thumbs down button is still working.

Have a good night.

Exactly! That's why if you demand it, rather than her offering it, or she doesn't want it, it is rape. And you don't get to be in charge of deciding whether it's rape--the law has decided that for you.

Being equals means she has the right to say, "No"--and expect you to listen and stop.

I am so sorry that this has happened. I know how you are feeling. Shock, numb, pain, questioning yourself, etc. Brooke, don't question your judgment. Rapists are like two people. One side they show the world and the world loves them and then they have that monster side that only those they attack see. I am glad it was not you that was hurt and I am sad for the one he did hurt. I pray she is getting the help she will need to deal with this and I pray you have someone you can confide in too because you can eat yourself up with doubting your own judgment.

I will be praying for you and your friend.

Shut the **** up, you demented idiot. She was not at all unclear: Her former friend, who never wronged her in any way, got caught in the act of raping someone else. What is there to not understand?

Why does this site continue to cater to demented trolls, who revel in the pain and suffering of others?