We should not impose such things on each other.
No, I am not imposing anything. There have to be things about some women that turn you off. Some are physical features they were born with while others are things the women assumed/put on/ affected during the course of their lifetimes, like a style of dress or a hair color or a way of pronouncing certain words. If those things are significant, you would not date that woman. THat is not imposing anything on the woman.
Sure, there are plenty of things that turn me off. I just won't mistake my taste in a person to be the objective measure of what is good taste.
However, if 95% of the woman's total package appeals to you, you might discuss that final 5% with her. Let's say if she has been dying her hair green and you dislike the color but adore her and put it to her about the color, if she adores you, she might stop using green hair dye. in that situation, I would say the two of you worked it out.
So let me get this straight, she's 95% awesome, and the way she will show she adores me is by changing the last 5%? If she had the hair when I met her, why not just accept the hair?
This is what I mean about grooming as being a form of expectation. If green hair is a part of her personal expression, the 5% of satisfaction I would get out of it changing is not worth it. I'd rather her grooming be a personal expression, not a means of communicating adoration.
If someone turns me off, I'm not going to reinvent them and impose my will upon them until they do. I'll take it or leave it.