@spendius,
Quote:Oh--very droll Rebecca I must say. I bet you had a little teeheehee when you thought that up.
I'm glad you found it so. I did have to chuckle as I typed that.
Quote:As far as I'm concerned Darlene was a problem kid. Just going on what you said about her. Unless I'm out of date and what I think are problem kids are normal now and the normals are the problems. Smoking at 15, in a home for waifs and strays, behaving contrary to the rules, getting her ciggies confiscated, stealing a knife and playing with it thinking a lot, getting caught and getting her ciggies back off the kind one. I don't think of that as normal. I came to my conclusion only on the basis of what you said about her. It is perfectly admissible.
You're right. My view of 'normal', I have to admit, has probably become very skewed over the years.
Although this might be true too:
Quote:Unless I'm out of date and what I think are problem kids are normal now and the normals are the problems.
I know I very often feel a little abnormal because my life experience seems to have been so different from those of a lot of the people I run into - but again - the population of people I see every day probably gives me a skewed view of the norm.
Quote:You came to an inadmissible conclusion saying she was addicted. She might have been trying it on. See how far she could push you. Acting it up and taking a stand on the ciggies. Seeking attention. Some of them, even normals, can make their behaviour degenerate at the drop of a hat. They've seen actresses do it thousands of times in soaps and movies when the director calls "action". I've seen it done lots of times. In the pub even. They can turn it on and off like a tap.
I've told you this before spendius, but I'll say it again. You really should work with kids. If you don't need to work or get paid - you should volunteer. You display a wonderfully insightful and nuanced understanding of them.
But I don't think Darlene was trying it on. I think she was actually physically and painfully craving a cigarette.
Quote:What did Wanda say when she found you had caved in because of your soft-hearted empathy. Which I admire by the way. I can't stand Wanda types myself. She should be a traffic warden. Get a uniform.
I don't remember what she said in that particular instance, but I do remember that eventually she did say to me, 'I thought you were a nice girl from a good family,' when I made a different decision from what she'd have done regarding one of the kids.
But you know, it was inevitable. I was a Yankee (from NJ no less), and that was strike one against me as far as she was concerned as she was this sixty year old southern woman from Appalachia who wanted to believe that the war between the states hadn't settled the issue of slavery 120 years before. A lot of these kids were poor and black and she was racist toward them. I couldn't stand to watch it. Uniform's right - she should have been wearing SS insignia.
Quote:That might be valid but only by ignoring what the nonstimulated self can make of ideas which occur to the stimulated self. If the self is never stimulated it has no ideas coming from that realm to work with. The ideas are not forgotten when nonstimulated. If they were never had they couldn't even be forgotten. The imagination is in a permanently nonstimulated state. And does it show.
But I'll allow that an unstimulated imagination might have a higher capacity than some stimulated ones. I'm saying that one imagination has more capacity when stimulated than when not. And that the choice to stimulate it can be bought in the shops which is to say with the approval of the government. Those choosing not to, for whatever reason, are less stimulated than they might be and less interesting companions as a result. It's a well known theory and I find it pretty true.
Huh? And what I'm saying is that different brains are activated by different stimuli. I have a good friend who seems to need chemical stimulation whereas I do not. We've been friends since the age of eight. When we were teens he got heavily into pot, etc., etc...and introduced me to it. It didn't do anything for me- I mean NOTHING- except hurt my throat. But he could be smoking and I could not be smoking and we could both be listening to the same music and/or watching the same movie and we'd both find it amazing and funny in the same way.
I'm not saying my brain was better because I didn't need chemicals or that his brain was better because his could employ these chemicals in a way mine couldn't...we were just different.
And actually - I'm gonna boast here. I have a friend who is a BIG time smoker and he goes on about it like you do. I know he will never quit - and I told him this because you can watch him smoke and SEE that he enjoys the very action of smoking, aside from what it does for him mentally (he's also very creative and intelligent) and once we were sitting and talking about Truman Capote and he said, 'I haven't had a cigarette for three hours and I haven't even wanted one the whole time we've been talking.'
Do you really only find other smokers more interesting? Or do you think it might be that you feel less constrained about smoking yourself with other smokers and so you find that circumstance more stimulating (for yourself) and less boring?
Quote:But there you go--you do seem to like smokers you say. You should too. They have put their health and finances and, these days, their reputation second to being interesting to you.
I think I like smokers for the same reason I like teaching in a prison-
(that's a joke, sort of). They're people who buck convention, live on the edge and are different from me. I maybe wouldn't want to actually be them, but they're more interesting to be around than your typical, wholesome all-American boy scout.