A very angry little boy.

sounds like you are a jack-ass.

welcome to a2k.

and get a grip...



abbie, sounds like counseling of some kind is best for him.

he's in denial of sorts. as much as he can understand of it, anyway...

hugs.

Anyway; Thank you Intrepid. Glad to hear he's back on track.
Thanks for your post, it was reassuring that i wasn't just blowing things out of proportion.

A-M

i'd say you're doing the right things

i'll keep you and your family in my thoughts

I feel sorry for you. Clearly you didn't get appropriate counselling and as a result you have ended up a bitter delusional prick.

It's not your fault; it's the fault of the person who didn't get you the right counseling when you were little. I hope something happens in your life to help you to mature and become less opinionated.

Good luck, to you and to those who have to be in your company every day, it must be very unpleasant for them unless, of course, you're one of those very sad people whom enjoy upsetting and annoying people by acting ignorant and lacking vital social skills.

Best wishes for you're future, thanks to counseling I’m hopeful that my brother will not be negatively affected by the events that have been occurring for much of his life.

I am now going to find out how to spell counseling, I realize how many different way's I've spelt it on this post.

Good luck.

A-M

Couldn't agree more. The menance appears to be a troll who had counselling that did not, apparently, work. Whatever counselling he/she had was forced upon them because he/she obviously does not have the wherewithall to maintain themselves.

Pity that this thread had to be brought down by, as you so aptly put it....an asshole.

No advice for you on this one, Abbie... save this: Click on that Phantom Idiot's name and then click where it says IGNORE USER. This way the troll's posts will be collapsed before you see them.

It would be a kindness if everyone else would vote his posts down. When enough people do; he'll cease to exist for most user's settings. There is no profit in feeding the troll.

Great and useful post, Intrepid.

On counselling or counseling: if I remember, the double l's are english and one l is u.s.a. spelling. I vary when I type it as I think I remember being taught to double certain consonants in certain circumstances and thus favor 'll', but then keep seeing it with one 'l'. Traveling, travelling, same quandary.

Then there is the matter of 'er' and 'or'. I think of 'or' as something to do with people in the justice system, and 'er' as re those in the, ah, counselling professions. Not that I've recently researched any of this opinionating.

Aack, and the legal profession person may be a councillor? Oh, never mind, I don't know.

Bill, the phantom doesn't appear to have comprehended any of the history here, including the primary post - I take him to be reactive out of his own pain. Might be a troll too. But he (why do I take him as a he? I don't know) might be able to use a little help too. I bring this up since I plan to vote down posts that I think cross the line, but perhaps listen if he or she opens a thread about his/her story.

I was thinking a similar thing, clearly there's something going on there.
I also took the poster as a guy.
However, unlike you, I won't be listening to any of his(?) posts in the future, I don't imagine i'd be practically reasonable.

NightNight

A-M

Oh, I agree you must put him on ignore or at least not read the crap, ignoring being a sure thing, and thanks to Bill for mentioning that to you. Egads, re your reading it. I probably disagree with myself, on giving him a chance on some other thread as not a routine troll.

Abbey, I'll go back and check my ages and stages books to make sure but, if memory serves me correctly, it was just about age 6 when my girls (each in her own way) became obsessed with death and dying -- mostly mine -- so I think you're facing the compounding of a normal developmental period with the trauma of someone close passing away.

It's pretty god-awful when we loose a loved one, but it's incomprehensible to lose a loved one right at the stage in our lives when that's one of our greatest fears. For your brother (well, all of you really) it's your worst nightmare come true. Unfortunately for Indi he's too old to be told something like, "she's gone into a long sleep", which might be appropriate for a 2 or 3 year old, but not old enough not to be terrorized (and traumatized) by the fact that his sister has died.

Intrepid gave you some wonderful insight -- Indi will be fine with good nurturing and care, but I join Izzie's concern that an awful lot of the nurturing and caring is falling onto your young shoulders. How are you?

Hey Abbie

One of the probs with the internet is those occasional idiot posters who are extremely reactive and don't know diddlysquat about you and yours - use the ignore facility as OBill explained if you don't want to see that person - you're smart gal, I reckon you won't take on any of what he/she said - just take the positives where you can and ignore the menaces.

One thing that might help with your parents -- Indi's reaction can be both perfectly normal AND need to be addressed.

Ignoring it won't necessarily make it go away, nor will addressing it make it any less normal. He's a little kid who has gone through something very difficult.

Abbie, from your posts, your uncle seems to be a very competent man.
I believe that u said that he is a mental health care provider?

I imagine that u have probably already called this problem to his attention.



David

That sucks that the times seem to have clashed then, yet makes a lot of sense



I’m fine. In a weird way they’re more my kids than they are my parents, they’ve been a little absent, my mum especially. I taught him to read and write and tie his shoes, he’d sooner come to me if he’s upset than he would my parents and I don’t mind that, he understands to a certain point why Lilia had the attention from my parents and I’ve done my best to make sure he doesn’t feel neglected (although I’m sure that too is abuse in “Phantom Menace’s” mind).

@Izzie


Will do.

@Sozobe

That could work better than how I’ve been putting it; Thank you.

He's coming down tonight, wen't home for a week to sort out work and such but he should be here late this evening or early morning (He lives a few hours away)

He's a therapist for adults, he specialises in helping treat stress and depression so to some degree he does help, but as he's said, he's not trained in a way that Indi needs.

Hopefully he'll sort my parents out though and explain better than I have why Indi should see someone.

A-M

He can probably recommend someone who has more specific training.

Abbie,
I 'll offer this suggestion, to help to reduce the problem somewhat:
if u can think of anything that your little brother likes,
that makes him happy, see if u can provide it to him.

If u can distract him from his unhappiness
for even a short time, that will be for the better.
Spend as much time with him as possible. Praise him. Predict good things in his life.
Read to him.

I guess home schooling is completely out of the question, right ?

Hello David

I somewhat disagree with the above because I think Abbie needs to think about herself a little too and not take on too much responsibility here. She'll do what she can, I'm sure, for Indi and May - but she needs to be teenager and concentrate on her studies and her own life too. She can't keep carrying the load.

It's a lot of pressure being the one who has to cope with everything - I hope she's going to take time for herself and other people will then have to step up and start helping with her little siblings.

Just my opinion, of course.