How do I get a boy friend

Maybe take an interest in the guy, ask him about himself.
Maybe ask about his interests ?
Maybe ask his opinions ?
Maybe ask his advice about anything, like your horses ?

Maybe praise him about something.





David

Maybe ask him how he sees the future
concerning a lot of things that he believes to be interesting ?

Whether he 's going to college and which one he wants ?

His hobbies ?
His talents ?
How he wants to make a living ?

Ask him: "What is important to u ?"
"What do u care about ? "

If u find any interesting stories in the newspaper
or on TV news, u might ask him what he thinks about them.

maybe

lol thanks. ill do that

Find out whether he is a conservative or a deviant.

What???

David is right about asking him about himself. Guys would much rather talk about themselves than listen to a girl talking about herself all the time.

Here's an idea. If your parents say OK, ask him to do something with your family...either at your house or someplace your family likes to go. (I know, I know, it sounds lame...but the more time your parents spend around him, the more comfortable they will be with you seeing him. They're going to need a little time to get used to the idea of you + a guy.)

(LOL..."a conservative or a deviant"...David is being political again. In OSDcode, "deviant" means liberal...LOL)

true true...

Well, those are 2 different states of mind.

Most of the time, a "conservative" (in the political, governmental, sense)
is someone who rigidly follows the US Constitution
(which is an instrument of personal liberty)
and those who don 't take it very seriously and stray from it,
or deviate from it: the liberals (also known as the bad guys).

A conservative (like me) is usually concerned about
personal freedom and about Individualism,
while a deviant (liberal) is more concerned about creating equality,
even if that means curtailing and reducing personal liberty.

These are 2 very different basic mind sets.

I m sorry for being so wordy.



David

Still not clear on something -- you hang out with this guy (best friend's sister) and two 4-H guys that you're not interested in, but do you have other social stuff going on? Roughly, what is the pool of guys your age that you see and interact with on a semi-regular basis? (So far we know of 3...)

i play volleyball but that's all girls. im in a band but nick is 18 and he has a gf not that it means anything to him. our drummer is 9 so i really dont want to date him and the rest are girls. i havnt been to the mall this year so no guys there. what else did u want to know???

oh ok i get it

OK thanks.

The ball is rolling with your best friend's brother so I guess see what happens there. (I'm not enthused, can you tell? ) In general though, I'd recommend finding ways to hang out with a WHOLE lot more guys.

What about when your band plays, do you meet audience members?

Some sort of low-key hanging out sounds best -- a hobby-ish club-ish sort of thing.

Is there anything in your area for other homeschooled kids? 'Cause it's a hard age for manufactured socializing -- most of what I have in mind would happen at school (and offshoots from school contacts).

guys basketball on fri.

U can think about developing more interests,
things u like to do (maybe some things related to horses ?)
or other animals who u like
and attend group meetings concerning those interests,
in hope of meeting more boys your age.

Maybe your newspaper has ads about any such group meetings
that u can attend, for widening your social life.

alright thanks lots 4 all or help

emshae, You dont HAVE to have a boyfriend. Lots of girls dont have boyfriends at your age even though it might seem like it. Most of the really nice girls I knew did not date until they were 16 or 17. I'm not saying you shouldnt have a boyfriend just that you dont NEED to have one. Boyfirends are NOT a status symbol. Just find someone you like hanging out with.

yeah, I 'm sure she welcomes THAT advice.

She can retort by questioning your NEED for your wife.

She may NOT welcome it, but she SHUD welcome it.