@aidan,
aidan wrote:
Quote:I have never liked my looks.
I'm sorry to hear you feel that way. I think you have a very nice face - and particularly strikingly large, expressive and gentle eyes.
Quote:I don t feel comfortable opening up a conversation
with strangers (not to say that I have never DONE it).
Ice breaking seems awkward, as a general rule.
To me: it does not come naturally.
I think I picked up the habit of initiating conversation with strangers from my mother. When we'd go grocery shopping, I'd watch her at the checkout line telling the clerk our life story....and that's sort of how I turned out to be.
One friend of mine jokes about it - once when we were eating, he went to the bathroom and when he came back, I was engaged in a long conversation with the couple at the table next to ours and after they went back to eating, he said something like, 'I'm sure you got their names, but did I give you enough time to get their dates of birth and political affiliations?
I don't think people give a crap what you look like if you're a friendly person, David.
Yeah; that happened the
OPPOSITE way, in my experience:
in the 1980s, I was seeing an actress, Ivy, who was
STRIKINGLY beautiful;
without exageration: she was so extremely beautiful
that my head jumped back at seeing her,
if I had not seen her for a while.
I remember remarking to her
truthfully,
after an absence of a few weeks:
"I remembered that u were
beautiful,
but I did not remember that u were
THAT beautiful."
She was anorexic.
She was
irritable; got mad easily.
I remember thinking to myself, when I was feeling disaffected
over dinner:
"She is beautiful . . . . she is beautiful" to
remind myself,
because I was forgetting that, beset with her irritations driving me nuts.
