Gala wrote: As long as you are white you will never know what it is like to be judged for your skin color. You will just never know.
I do not believe it is the color of one's skin that one is judged; it is the racial group that one is part of, and therefore some people ascribe to that racial group certain stereotypes. I say this since Indians from India might be very dark complected, but might not get the same reactions from the same white person that might react a certain way towards African-Americans.
It really cannot be skin color, since there are so many ethnic stereotypes that have nothing to do with complexion, and they all elicit oftentimes specific reactions from people that subscribe to certain beliefs about that ethnic group. I believe skin color is just a euphemism, to avoid the reality that there are other factors that go into prejudice.
And, in my own opinion, as long as Caucasians believe they have certain inherent "Caucasoidal" qualities that they value, there might be prejudice against darker peoples, simply due to the biological realities of dominant and recessive genetic traits. I suspect that is the "Emperor's New Suit of Clothes" in the topic. I believe, few people want to admit prejudice has to do with preference for having one's grandchildren be like themselves.
And, I do not believe we should think that many African-Americans want to mix with whites. All ethnicities and racial groups have a majority, I believe, that would like to continue into the next millenium their respective pedigree.
On that note, it comes down to who has power. The powerful tend to have imitators. And, in a civilized society, the simplest road to power is becoming useful in a technological society. The answer, I believe, is therefore education. In effect, treat education as though we are still in the early 1800's and one can live a comfortable life in an agrarian society, and one will survive, but add nothing to the power structure of one's group. Note which immigrant groups are most concerned about their children's education. That is prescient, I believe.
Also, when someone opens his/her mouth, one is giving the most important trait, I believe, that one is judged. Speak well, and one is judged better. Naturally, there are regional accents that some people take a pride in; but then do not be surprised if that affects interaction with people that speak a non-regional speech.