Mame wrote:dant, you've had some good advice here. Question: does he expect to get half of what's left? Are you going to give it to him?
I'm glad you know him for the snake he is, but did you really not know this before?
I'm really sorry you're going through this, and agree with others that you need to do whatever it takes to relieve the anger and disappointment. You don't deserve to be carrying that around with you and it's like taint on your memories of your mother.
I also don't believe blood is thicker than water, but that's a choice you'll be making for yourself.
Mame, yes, I appreciate all the good advice here, and I am cogitating it. Does he expect to get what's left? No, he doesn't dare mention that to me. I will never give it to him. In fact, the money is in a trust for my daughter for her education and is out of his reach.
And no, I didn't know the extent of his snake-ishness. Some people don't reveal themselves until it's too late I guess. I believe his wife is a major component. She's a real keep-up-with-the-Joneses and he tries to appease her at any cost.
I have decided to have another service for mom, complete with people who weren't there for her funeral. It'll be the kind of send off she would have liked, in a place she loved. And minus brother and his wife. I was recovering from cerebral aneurysm surgery- which is pretty major - (that had not ruptured, thank God) eight weeks before mom died, so planning everything was beyond my scope at the time and brother didn't care; he just wanted a cheap send off without my uncles or any other family around. Now that I'm feeling more myself I can do what I should have done for her.
I don't think blood is thicker than water either. I wonder who came up with that saying.