Let's see...
Mame wrote:
1. Why am I really doing this (or wanting to)?
Because my stepson says he's ready to settle down and build a life with someone. He's almost 40 and seems to want more than bouncing around from one woman to the next. And I would hate for his ex-girlfriend, in her mid-30's, to waste any more time, biologically speaking, if she really doesn't feel that he's the one.
Mame wrote:
2. Who's going to benefit, if anyone?
Both of them, hopefully. Whether they decide to be together or stay apart.
Mame wrote:
3. Is it really "necessary"?
An objective voice is often necessary in messy situations when the parties involved can't see things clearly any longer.
Mame wrote:
4. What will happen if I don't interfere?
Well, my fear is that they will continue to waste each others' time, wake up ten years from now still rutting around in each others' life, not committed to each other but not able to commit to anyone else, full of anger and disappointment and wondering where the years went.