Bummer, Wilso. Women can be horrible to men and most horrid to the nicest ones. I know, I've done it. When I was younger and a guy seemed too eager, I freaked out. No way was I going to be interested. Instead, I was interested in the good-looking guy who sat close to the lecturer, who didn't pay attention to the other women (so I wasn't jealous) but he didn't pay attention to me (WHAT????) and got top grades, had smart things to say in class.
At this stage of the relationship (next to none) the flowers & card were a mistake. They'd be perfect if you were married, though IMO a romantic card, even just a "nice" card, is always a mistake. (Your thoughts are always better than some Hallmark card hacks words.) Much better to hand-write a note, and if it has to be in a card, find one that makes her smile.
Have you ever seen the movie, The Tao of Steve? There is a fairly clear-cut explanation of the relationship between women & men that might help out. According to the "hero" - Dex, you have to not just act disinterested, you have to BE disinterested, but cool.
Here is the Tao of Steve: Be a "Steve," not a "Stu."
Quote:As Dex explains it, all the best males in American culture are Steves, such as Steve Austin of The Six Million Dollar Man and Detective Steve McGarrett of Hawaii Five-O. And the biggest Steve of them all, Steve McQueen.
"Don't come on to women, but don't be friends with them, either," Dex aka "Steve" says. "Do something excellent in their presence to demonstrate your sexual worthiness."
You started out right by demonstrating something excellent... then you "wanted to be friends with her." A big mistake... instead, remember you are the lone wolf. You are satisfied with your life -- you exude self-reliance. Wait until a woman comes on to you... then you must not only act, but BE disinterested. You have a full life. It does not include her - no explanations. Make her wish it did. Let her coax you into a relationship. The important thing is that you have to not just play-act this... you have to feel it to your core. Actually, your being angry is a good thing. Think of it this way, women are just too damn much trouble to bother with. Then, be excellent in their presence.
Anyway, the movie is funny and will give you something to do while you're home. (Plus you can pick apart this philosophy better if you've seen the film.)
Remember, you are in the perfect position to be excellent in the presence of women. You're at the uni! You're smart. You're getting great grades! You've got a job that pays well, a house. Things are good! That woman was not for you, the one who is for you will show up and she'll be intensely interested in you. Wait for her and let her woo you.