@dadpad,
A plan.
Good.
A bitch about the travel, it'll add to the exhaustion, but what a blessing re health coverage dadpad.
Our family has had some experience in lengthy hospital stays and travelling (not usually four hours thank god) and subsequent looooooong days rife with worry at the hospital. Just a common sense tip that you've probably already thought of: pack a cooler bag for the trips: sammies and other carbs, fresh veggies, and chocolate/cookies/sweet something: instant energy. Comfy loose fitting clothes, sweaters, socks, and reading material. Pen and paper. Forgive me if that’s all self-evident. It made the days bearable. Hospital food can be really crappy and expensive.
Will you and mumpad both go?