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Teeenagers, who'd have 'em

 
 
dadpad
 
Reply Mon 10 Sep, 2007 08:26 am
Son, 16, was suspended for a day for fighting today it takes two to tango so the other kid was suspended as well.

Apparently a girl was involved somewhere.


Two young bulls butting heads.
 
dlowan
 
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Reply Mon 10 Sep, 2007 08:38 am
Tell him next time he gets to be made a steer.




The spring has sprung, the grass is riz,
And so, it seems, has human piz',
This spring will end,
These grasses bend,
But springtime lust eternal is.
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msolga
 
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Reply Mon 10 Sep, 2007 09:18 am
So, I guess your son is rather remorseful now, dadpad?

Not so long ago, I had to help another (female) teacher break up a really vicious fight between two year 11 girls at a school I was working in. They were really throwing themselves into it, rolling around on the ground, pulling each other's hair, swearing & yelling, etc ... ringed by a large crowd of onlookers. We had to prize them apart to put an end to the fight. Ugh, it was horrible. Shocked It was one of those "You can't have him, he's mine!" situations. They both fancied the same boy, you see. It seems that he'd given both of them the impression that he was "interested". Thing is, neither of them felt at all bad about the episode later. I don't know what the boy they both fancied thought about it, but me, I felt quite shaken afterwards.
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Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Mon 10 Sep, 2007 09:30 am
At the age of 16 I nearly was send off from school completely .... because I taped the sex-education classes Embarrassed

And with 17 again: then they thought, I had published/copied a secret paper on the talked-about emergency law .... until they agreed, it was an official draft prepared by ministry officials.

Quite funny: my parents didn't like the first at all, but kind of applauded to the latter
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patiodog
 
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Reply Mon 10 Sep, 2007 09:58 am
Well, did he get the girl?
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Mon 10 Sep, 2007 10:12 am
Dadpad--

You and Mrs. Dadpad have my most sincere sympathy.
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dadpad
 
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Reply Mon 10 Sep, 2007 04:38 pm
msolga wrote:
So, I guess your son is rather remorseful now, dadpad?


I asked son if the other kid was hurt. his reply was a fairly satisfied - Yep

So the story unfolds after a period of time. In my estimation the other kid got what he needed. Even the school principal said the other kid got the message loud and clear.

My son is not an agressive kid. Hes aware he shouldn't have done it. However he explained he had walked away from several potential situations in the recent past.

The girl it seems was a past niggle, not integral. Been there done that.

My advice - If you need to fight make sure you win, but try to make sure you don't need to win.
The school will make sure the correct strategies are in place to deal with this situation
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Tue 11 Sep, 2007 01:36 pm
My son was 14 when escorted home by a policeman after a fight when they got off the school bus.

The policeman made a point of telling me that the other kid was older, bigger, less mature and more damaged.

I was thrilled. Just thrilled.

Men!
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DrewDad
 
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Reply Fri 14 Sep, 2007 08:13 am
dadpad wrote:
My advice - If you need to fight make sure you win, but try to make sure you don't need to win.

I hope you've explained that a fair fight is when you win.
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dadpad
 
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Reply Tue 25 Sep, 2007 03:13 am
Daughter (19) is learning some of lifes hard lessons. I dont know who it is harder on her or me and mum.

She is doing the foreign travel thing in Sweden which is where she went for her student exchange. She has no money and basically has not been able to get a job since she got there. Currently she is couch surfing.
She was in share unit with some other girls but there was a falling out. We had been helping out with rent money but only that.

Recently she took work on a farm. I'm not sure what the arrangement was supposed to be ie board and how much she was to be paid.

Her latest email to us

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Katrine (the woman who owns the farm) has paid me, or will, tomorrow, 200 :-. That's about $4 a day for the work I've been doing, but I can't exactly argue.....I will start to question that if I have to buy food for here again. So I need $180. Do you want to pay any of that? I'm really nearly in tears here, because it's all very hard and not cheap!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Let me know what you want to do. I'm going to go and have a tanty, and chop some nettles or something.


..................................................................

She has an interview for a job at a hotel up north
.......................................................................


Quote:
It's going to cost me $213.84 (as of now) to get to **** on the train, train, bus, bus, train and then another bus. Oh, and another bus, to get to the farm. And actually, another bus to get into ****, to catch the first train. But I'm not counting those ones. Oh, and that cost covers a night in a youth hostel in ****, seeing as there's no Couch-surfers up in the north. Come to think of it, I didn't count in the cost of the bus from **** to Jukkasjarvi and back.

Anyway! I wrote an email to the Hotel people, saying, "Hello, I'm going to be spending over 1000:- and traveling for more than 0 hours to attend this interview. I'd like to be fairly sure I'm going to get a job. Oh, and it's cheeky, but would you like to cover my costs?" but they haven't emailed me back. Yet.


Crying or Very sad
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dadpad
 
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Reply Tue 25 Sep, 2007 03:21 am
A follow up email a few hours later.

Quote:
I went and threw bits of wood into the woodshed, and stamped on spiders.

The nice man from the Hotel rang me, and we had a chat, in which he told me all the things I wanted to hear. There's 17 jobs left, in the particular 'occupation' I'm being interviewed for, and 17 people. That makes my chance of being given a job (if, of course, they like me!) quite high. The hotel is putting me up for a night, seeing as I'm travelling more than 5 hours - apparently that's a Swedish Job Seek rule, woohoo.

I can claim compensation for the journey, after I've paid and have receipts - as it's longer than 3 hours, again that Job Seek rule -, mind you, through the central agency I applied through. I feel it'll take about 7 years to get to me, but it'll get to me in the end.
They also told me exactly what to tell the bus driver (haha) about where I should be getting off the bus. Apparently the stops are a bit flexible sometimes.

I feel like I'm going to another land.
Smile
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sozobe
 
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Reply Tue 25 Sep, 2007 05:45 am
That's encouraging!

I like her voice btw.
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Tue 25 Sep, 2007 02:20 pm
Ah, youth. Ah, adventure.

Your daughter is growing up.
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dadpad
 
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Reply Tue 25 Sep, 2007 02:29 pm
Noddy24 wrote:
Ah, youth. Ah, adventure.

Your daughter is growing up.


She would take exception to that noddy. She's already a grownup.

Sometimes I yearn for the days when I could just pack all my worldy goods into a car and on a whim go somewhere. At other times (like this) not so much.
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Tue 25 Sep, 2007 03:04 pm
dadpad--

Quote:
She would take exception to that noddy. She's already a grownup.


Nonsense, I'm at least three times her age and still aspiring to full adulthood.
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dadpad
 
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Reply Tue 25 Sep, 2007 03:05 pm
Noddy24 wrote:
dadpad--

Quote:
She would take exception to that noddy. She's already a grownup.


Nonsense, I'm at least three times her age and still aspiring to full adulthood.


You and I both know that. But children always know better than their parents.
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ossobuco
 
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Reply Tue 25 Sep, 2007 03:09 pm
But not always more than their aunts...
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Tue 25 Sep, 2007 03:31 pm
Dadpad--

Your grandchildren are probably still far-away twinkles in your daughter's eye, but hold on. Revenge is sweet.
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dadpad
 
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Reply Tue 2 Oct, 2007 05:06 am
Noddy24 wrote:
Dadpad--

Your grandchildren are probably still far-away twinkles in your daughter's eye, but hold on. Revenge is sweet.


She got it! she got it! she got it!

(the hotel job)

<dances>

More later when she has settled in.
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sozobe
 
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Reply Tue 2 Oct, 2007 05:08 am
Yay kidpad!
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