I forgot ehBeth, I've been agreeing with her, continue to.
Yes, there does seem to be a rash of cheating posters...
I think after reading everything, I can define my issues.... Maybe...
If A is in serious relationship with B, or married to B,
and A is thinking of cheating with C (or has)...
Then A should figure out the problem, or what is missing, from the relationship with BA. And talk to B.
Either work it out with B, or get out.
For me, it's not the cheating that is the issue, but the lack of honesty.
If a couple agrees to some sex-on-the-side thing, fine.
Whatever works, as long as the couple is in agreement.
Everyone knows what is going on, no one is hiding or bound to hurt the other.
What I find annoying from the latest rash of posters, is that they are looking for validation or they are just here to flaunt what they are doing.
And that, simply, is selfish and heartless, IMO.
caribou wrote:For me, it's not the cheating that is the issue, but the lack of honesty.
If a couple agrees to some sex-on-the-side thing, fine.
Whatever works, as long as the couple is in agreement.
Everyone knows what is going on, no one is hiding or bound to hurt the other.
Totally <nodding> in agreement.
Communicate with each other.
I still maintain some of those posters are gameplayers, forum taunters. For those that aren't, who are in the throes of whether to go on with an affair (or more), I think it's not a help to barrage with moral rage. Actually, I'm not sure that has happened all so recently, but it sure has in the past.
I'm not against expressing rage, and certainly not against expressing point of view. But, as some of us have said, in effect, the smell of moral superiority piled up starts to reek, to the reader. View can be expressed without complete vitriol, which ain't helpful, but is a goodbar for the poster.
Again, not that I'm sans vitriol. Just looking at our behavior to posters.
ehBeth wrote:
Totally <nodding> in agreement.
Communicate with each other.
Are you related to Osso?
And speaking of Osso, have you tried cauliflower grilled with feta? To die for!
I'm sure hamburger would have let me know if OssoB was really Cousin OssoB.
Maybe she's OssoBurger?
(no, but cauliflower, chile, pancetta, garlic, tad of basilico...)
I'm not bright enough to work this out. There is some level of agreement here, and, at the extreme, some level of appallment.
You're more than bright enough, osso, even if you're not related to ehBeth. And I think I'm going to try your recipe.
best with spaghettini... (kidding, what do I know what it's best with)****
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That's from a great article in the NYT by Craig Claiborne, the article that had the pasta primavera recipe (among others), a big deal..... (the le cirque throwtogether, that became p. primavera)
I have the article somewhere...
I'd love it.... cooks and gardeners - always giving away plants, foods, recipes, tips...
See, I'm being obnoxious again.
'night.
I don't get where you're being obnoxious, but if you're hitting the sack, good night...
Well, major tangenting, my way when I go into super obnoxious...
but I'll gather the early claiborne column.
It was a big column at the time. My ex, sly dog, tried every bit of the page, and then used it as a basis for ingredient mixing for a long time, not always with the same ingredients, but using the principle(s).
The primavera recipe is classic, as in that's how it happened (I may have a thread on it here), but the cauliflower thing was easier and perfect.
OK, obviously, stuff for another thread.
JPB wrote: Back to Heatwave's original point on infidelity.... I hate the skulking, sneaking, lying aspects of affairs as much as the next person and consistently advise against them. My point is only that there are times when it can be the right answer.
JPB, I don't think that the couple you are talking about, who have an arrangement on the side, is a good example of your quote above. Could you think of any other scenario, when sneaking around to have an affair would be okay?
dyslexia wrote:Broccoli makes me ill. Even smothered with Velveeta.
Velveeta would make anybody ill.
