... I ended up taking him to rehab because if I didn't he would have died. I took him away from his friends and helped him but the only difference is he wanted the help beause he knew if he continued down the road he was going on he would end up dead.
This person ASKED you for help. Because of that, your actions really did help.
...I may be wrong for sticking around this long but I hate hurting people that is not my thing and If I walk away he will have nothing.
Well he can't drive around because he has already gotten an OUI so they only thing he is doing is hurting himself and being miserable .
This person has NOT ASKED you for help. Because of that, you are probably hurting him by staying around.
Are you a hurtful person?
The more you support his habit by making life easier, the more you're prolonging his natural process.
You can think about your own health or what you deserve, but for HIS benefit get away from him!
Let him really get into his misery, and go through it the way he needs to.
Until he has a horrible terrible experience that turns him around, he needs to get more and more into the misery.
When you make the process slower or more comfortable, you are hurting him. Enabling him
to deal with everyday life makes the alcoholism longer, deeper, darker, and more dangerous.
To help him, all you have to do is LEAVE.
Let him fall, so he can learn how to stand.