Your love for him could be enabling his drinking.
I did a quick Google search to find a way to explain this better and found this article. I hope it helps explain "enabling".
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Yes, it's sorta an AA term.
I can understand AA being seen as a cult.
I can understand the need for people to think for themselves.
I can also see that alcoholics might find this the best way to get the answers they need at a time when they have no answers.
My credentials, I'm a sister of an alcoholic, 22 yrs. sober.