@edgarblythe,
Quote:On the topic of using correct English, I have always, in each case, used the structure that seemed best at the time.
In this you are no different than any of the great writers of English, Edgar. Or, for that matter, any one of your fellow English native speakers.
Quote:As a student, I never thoroughly learned the rules they threw at us.
No one does, no one has ever learned those "rules", because they weren't rules. At best, we can memorize them. They were prescriptions, Ed, made up rules, rules that are "alien to the natural working of language". Language science has described this many times. I've also described this many times here at A2K. But it's hard to eradicate these old canards people hold about anything.
Quote:The rules people learn (or more likely, fail to learn) in school are called [prescriptive] rules, prescribing how one "ought" to talk. Scientists studying language propose [descriptive] rules, describing how people [do] talk -- the way to determine whether a construction is "grammatical" is to find people who speak the language and ask them. Prescriptive and descriptive grammar are completely different things, and there is a good reason that scientists focus on the descriptive rules.
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For here are the remarkable facts. Most of the prescriptive rules of the language mavens make no sense on any level. They are bits of folklore that originated for screwball reasons several hundred years ago and have perpetuated themselves ever since. For as long as they have existed, speakers have flouted them, spawning identical plaints about the imminent decline of the language century after century. All the best writers in English have been among the flagrant flouters. The rules conform neither to logic nor tradition, and if they were ever followed they would force writers into fuzzy, clumsy, wordy, ambiguous, incomprehensible prose, in which certain thoughts are not expressible at all. Indeed, most of the "ignorant errors" these rules are supposed to correct display an elegant logic and an acute sensitivity to the grammatical texture of the language, to which the mavens are oblivious.
http://pinker.wjh.harvard.edu/articles/media/1994_01_24_thenewrepublic.html
Essentially you were lied to, Edgar. Those that taught you were ignorant of the history of these made up rules. Pick any one of the rules you do remember being taught and in all likelihood it'll be one of these false rules.
Quote:Because I read library books, constantly, I was able to guess enough correct answers on the tests to pass. My problem was, my life was awash in negativity. Futility reigned. It kept me from being able to concentrate on and retain such information.
That's what everyone has to do in order to pass these nonsense tests. Those rules aren't rules; they never were rules. Keep this one thought in mind: they are "alien to the natural workings of language".
People operating naturally in language don't follow these prescriptions. They can't, because, again, these prescriptions are alien to the natural workings of language.
Scientists studying language find that those who scream loudest about those breaking the rules often do so themselves, sometimes in the same text wherein they chastise others for breaking the "rules".
Since you were roughly five years of age, you knew pretty much all the rules of the English language. Don't think that the conventions we all learn for writing are the gold standard for language for writing is an artificial part of language.
Also, don't fall into that false trap that most everyone believes, that the conventions used for writing describe the rules for correct English. That is the biggest lie of all.
The rules for speech and the conventions we follow for writing are very different. Neither one is the gold standard for language use. Each has its place, and in actual fact, there are more than two standards.
You've hit on one of the biggest paradoxes of language, a couple of them actually, and they are intertwined. People think that they learn language, learn to use language correctly by being taught about it in school. This is such patent nonsense. As I noted above, by age five, you knew millions of structural rules about your language, virtually everything you needed to function in language.
When one considers these millions of natural rules, the complexity of these natural rules you learned by age five, it makes the severely limited number of the silly rules/prescriptions you were taught in school look absolutely ridiculous.