Mon 13 Jan, 2020 03:56 pm
Hello Everybody , so I have been working with my boyfriend on and off, helping him out in some of his work projects and he pays me, so he gave me his work laptop, not personal and I was working from there, so I remember I needed to search for a word meaning on google so I opened up mozilla and went to the google bar and when I began typing, his search history shows up and I can see that he typed the name of this woman he went out a couple of times with( nothing serious that is) they were just getting to know each other, but there was never a relationship between them.
They happened to have met in their work environment in 2017( Update: Sorry I just found out that they actually meet for the first time on August of 2016 and they added each other on Facebook ) he talked to me about her a couple of times of how beautiful, supermodel looking she was and that she had this great management job in a luxury building residential in the beach ( this is were they actually met my bf was one of the engineers working on the building maintenance at that time and she was like the project manager) so I started feeling a little insecure and jealous because he talked so highly about her, physically speaking that is yet he told me she was a diva and was always flirting with everybody and other negative aspects about her.
The times that he has mentioned this woman to me, he would always start with:” this girl is very pretty, she actually looks like a model, that all the women that lived in the building told her what an amazing coke bottle body she had, that all these rich man driving expensive cars where after her, sending her flowers, messages and so on and then he would start saying all her negative traits and why he did not like her anymore and that she was empty, was too much of a diva and that he did see her true colors.
He told me that he was very glad that god took her out of his way, nevertheless he still has her in facebook and for some reason he always mentions the building were she worked in, or thinks that some random person lives there, so he always ends up mentioning it. He does not know in any way shape or form that I am aware that he has her in facebook and that I know her name as well.
And now I found out he has searched for her on google on several occasions ( about some months ago and now recently) ,why would this be? Is he still intrigued by this girl after 2 years or he is somewhat still curious, aggravated about her and the fact that nothing happened between them.
Should I ask him about this? What can I do to understand the reason why he is searching for her. It does not even make sense because he has her facebook. I have a close friend that knows her ex bf and knows her as well and according to my friend she works on another even more luxurious building now.
Why so much obsession with the building, this woman, at least this is what I feel here. this seems like if he was deeply impacted by all of this in that particular moment in his life and for some reason he can’t get over it.
Unless you have something else, (emails, them meeting, him buying gifts for her, etc. ) write it off as curiosity.
I still look up my ex on FB and it’s been 7 years. I just want to see if he’s as miserable as I hoped he would be.
Agreed with punky. Also not sure because I am not too computer savvy - but is the history of the search even recent? But even leaving that aside - so what - he told you what he didn't like about her. There are pretty girls every where - so what that is just surface.
And like Punkey said - who doesn't look up an ex? There an be a variety of reasons - I think plain old human curiosity is probably number 1. I have been married for over 21 years and I have looked up ex's. I wonder what they are doing and how -- I have also looked up old friends - again just to see how they are doing and what they are up to.
I have not had a desire to actually reach out to them - just normal human curiosity.
Oh - and like punkey said in some ways it feels good (yeah it is a bit childish) but isn't there just a small bit of satisfaction when you see a pix of your ex and he is bald?
So it there is nothing else but her name in his history search -- so who cares?