Diest TKO wrote:Quote:
He is going to "stay the course"
Maybe he should run for President. Smile
That's just low. Next time I'll think twice about asking advice here if I'm just going to be jabbed at.
I'm ever so amused at how upsetting it is to be compared to Dubya...
That's like, the meanest insult I can imagine!
Okay, seriously, I personally didn't mean to say that I think you have to dump her. I said earlier that I've been like her in the past, and that my boyfriend couldn't have said anything to make me snap out of it. This post by JPB:
Quote:In no case (unless I missed it) has there been a post from someone on either side of this type of relationship that indicated they are still in a happy longterm relationship. I suppose such a success is possible, but it's highly unlikely.
makes me think that I'd like to clarify my earlier post. I actually
am still in the same relationship (going on seven years) that I was in when I was dealing with this insecurity, and we did stick together through that rough time and now have a very healthy and loving relationship. So my earlier post wasn't to say that you have to break up, but just to say that
you can't fix this for her.
Just set the boundaries, be as loving and kind about it as you can, but have your time with your friends. Maybe you can help her through this and let her see that a good, mature relationship includes space for both partners-- she has to learn that somehow with someone, and I don't see why you shouldn't try to be there for her as she matures. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.