Older Women & Younger Men; are they finally socially OK?

CodeBorg, thats
almost like a poem,
what you wrote there.
Funny.

Oh... you're sorta right! (LOL)
I've been chopping too many thoughts
into symbols and meaning.

Obviously writing too long
rather than living.
Time for a walk... :-)

CB - is that your best rate? :wink:


babs - here (Toronto), the younger man/older woman doesn't seem to raise too many eyebrows unless the difference is 15 years or more. Parents, as i had already noted, are a different thing.

My ex was 21 years older than me ............ we had the time of our lives, for 10 years!

... then he grew up! We divorced.

I married a man eleven years younger than I am, and it didn't work out, eventually, eighteen years later (!), due to his midlife crisis. We lived together four years before that too.

We had a good life together in the meantime. We lived in Los Angeles and the only eyes I remember rolling were his parents' .... and they were more hot and bothered by his brother's wife than me, who they gradually grudgingly cottoned on to.

I think it depends on the people involved.

Well, to tell you the truth, honestly I don't know that much about being a gigolo. I'm sure it must vary a lot, but that's just what this one guy charges at work. The times I've been offered money I always turned it down, and when I hired a gigolo for my dates he cost $300 for just an hour, though he had to work with both my dates that night.

Then there was this lesbian I dated for a few months. :-) If I love a lesbian and she loves me, is it improper to hire her a female partner before the two of us get married? What's the correct etiquette? We had to figure it out for ourselves. It certainly was easier to hire a lesbian woman than a bi man, but it complicated my affair with a woman who was already married, because she had the same name as the other ones daughter. But that's another topic though.

The point is, the best source of information is probably to call the escort services in the phone book. It might take 20 minutes to find the rates in your area, as compared to here. And being realistic, the legal ones are probably just as eclectic as anyone else!

I never did figure out the proper amount to tip, not really being involved in my partners services. The times I've hired someone for myself it was more for closeness and intimacy, the committed relationship kind of thing, and that often does get discounted. The key is to find somebody who's nice, communicates well, and lives with honesty and integrity from the heart. Then everything works okay!





I don't want to digress too far ... As I said, I think older women with younger men are accepted by society just fine these days. :-) Some things do change over time, I guess.

What do you mean, you hired gigolos for your dates?

Interesting, isn't it? I wonder if that is indeed what he meant..... or if it's all tongue-in-cheeck.

My last love was 7 years younger than I was. I started seeing him when I was 30 and he was 23. We lived together for 6 years and I never noticed if we were accepted or not, nor did I care one way or the other. I did have women who envied me and it made me a bit nervous when I saw pretty young girls and women checking him out.

When I was 15 I had a boyfriend who was 28. When I was younger I liked older men, but when I reached 30 I became attracted to younger men.

No offense, but did that 28 year old guy have "issues?" A 28 year old guy dating a 15 year old girl is just...pretty sick.

16, on the other hand, is cool. Man, was that prom fun this year! I could tell all the young teachers were jealous.

Never thought I'd agree with Slappy but yeah, your 28 year old boyfriend was guilty of child abuse, no matter how hot you may have been at 15, Montana.

I knew that I should have kept my mouth shut about that one. Well, I know you have issues with that and I understand where you're coming from, but I was very mature at 15 and he was one of the better relationships I had. I am very well aware of the laws and I happen to think that's a stupid law. I'm sure I'll catch hell for saying that as well, but what the hell. I was the one who went after this guy. He kept telling me it wasn't right, but I finally conviced him that there was nothing wrong with it and he fell in love with me. There was never a time where he didn't treat me like gold. We are friends to this day and we talk on instant messenger regularly. The relationship lasted 2 years and I only broke up with him because the time came when I wanted to be with someone closer to my age. He is a great guy and he has no issues at all.

Hell, I'd still date him if he was closer. He still looks damn good.

Nothing tongue in cheek ... I said "truth, honestly" and that's what life
is really all about, heh. Things often get more complicated than the
simple rules we try to live by.

Technically a gigolo is a man hired by a woman to have sex with her.
In this case a man was hired by a man to have sex with two women,
so maybe they call it something different, like a giga-gigolo I don't know.

Anyways, the story has nothing to do with older women here, so I started
a new thread What's an honest man to do, really?

Well Montana, if we're honest, most of us know of girls who were in the very same type of relationship you experienced. I had several acquaintances in high school many years ago who claimed, at least, to be involved with adult men and they seemed no worse for the wear. It's still wrongwrongwrong and the adult in the relationship was committing a criminal act but...

in my class at high school, too ...

the law gotta draw a line somewhere, but in the end the line is always random.

I'll never think of it as being wrong. In fact it was actually good for me and kept me out of trouble and off the streets. All the guys around my age were chasing me simply because they wanted a piece of ass, but my boyfriend was nothing like that. At the beginning he was horrified to even touch me, but in time he was ok, although he didn't want to be seen in public with me. To this day we still love eachother and we always will.

There is no way he should be judged simply because of the age difference.

Okay.

A 15 year old girl is not a baby and shouldn't be treated like one.