i think my husband is addicted to internet porn

Hi Barbunny -

How is everything going with your husband? Are you resolving things?? I hope so. Sorry I camped on your post, but do please let us know how life is unfolding for you. I wish you the best.

- jazzie

Hi! everybody

just a little update! i have been seeing a therapist on my own. things are going well. i have learned there are issues from my past that i have hidden away and looks like i'm going to be dealing with them now, so i'm kind of scared! my husband has made quite the turnaround. i mean, he was a great man, husband and father to begin with, but in regards to the porn and all that, he seems to be looking at it from a different point of view. it has renewed my faith in him and our love. i will definitely keep you updated and will be posting on other threads as well! thanks again everyone for all your insightful opinions!

Wow, barbunny - this is great news. I have wondered how you've been getting on. Don't be frightened about opening up about the things you're scared of ... take it one small step at a time. You should never feel obliged to do or say anything you don't want to do - esp in counselling. You're in charge. It's your time (and theirs) but your money. So if you want to take your time to open up, then do that. Tell your counsellor you are nervous, they'll hold your hand (figuratively, not literally!) thru it.

Can I ask, re your husb and the porn issues, in what way is he looking at it from a diff point of view?? I am very pleased that he has turned around for the better and I hope he continues to work thru his stuff

Thanx for your update! It's good to hear from you.

jazzie

hi, jazzie,

thanks for the reply!

in response to your question about how my husband is viewing things differently in regards to porn,: he told me he finally saw how upsetting it was to me and that it was starting to affect our relationship. he realized that i was more important to him than porn, so he quit looking at it, especially when i am at home. he said he doesn't totally understand why it bothers me so much, but the fact that it hurst me and upsets me so much was enough of a reason for him. we'll see!

i truly hope things work out for you. i posted a message on your thread and promise to keep checking it out and helping as much as i can!

you sound like a very good wife. the truth is he shouldn't be looking at porn because he's committing adultery. and you shouldn't have to do bondage or wtf ever' i love my wife and she is satisfying enuff for me. if he doesn't stop then you should get rid of the computer or block the porn. if he gets upset, then you should leave him. you should be all he wants when it comes to sex.

you sound like a very good wife. the truth is he shouldn't be looking at porn because he's committing adultery. and you shouldn't have to do bondage or wtf ever' i love my wife and she is satisfying enuff for me. if he doesn't stop then you should get rid of the computer or block the porn. if he gets upset, then you should leave him. you should be all he wants when it comes to sex.

my husband using internet porn, what do I do??
HI,
I need help. Just found my husband masturbating to the computer yesterday when I came home from errand. He lied at first saying it was only the 3rd time, after more discussion he admitted that he does this 3 times per week for the last 7 years of our marriage. We have been married 10 years and I found porn magazines before I married him. I let him know I was not comfortable with this type of porn (not playboy) No animals or children involved just really hard core sex, lots of annal sex.

Our 10 year old daughter was home while I walked in on him. Also, our sex life has been ok. He has trouble climaxing no matter what I do. He admits to masturbating before he goes to bed to computer etc.. however with me he only can climax during more the mid day time frame. This is when I walked in on him. Is this an addiction, I feel very cheated on and I feel it is affecting my sex life and marriage. I want to ask him to leave and I am considering a divorce since he has been hiding this from me for so long. Also Our sex was 5 times a week for first 6 mos then we have averaged 2 time a month with 1 xi per week for about the last year. There were times in there though where we did not have sex consistently like one year where we barely had sex. He hardly ever initiates sex with me either, and he has never made love to me missionary style to the point of climax, always alternate positions. I would like more soft sex sometimes but it never has been that way.

I don' totally disagree with porn and I know the bedroom needs some spice. I have been ok with toys etc..... However, he has been putting this porn ahead of me for almost 10 years I feel,

Any responses would be very helpful. Please give your honest opinion, I am considering ending my marriage that would affect me daughter

thanks
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You just posted on a thread that will answer most if not all of the same issues. Why not scrioll back and read. Good luck with your provblem.

regardless of what you think about porn, this is a ridiculous statement

he may be negligent or thoughtless, but hardly adulterous

What constitutes an addiction to porn?
thanks Ragman,
I am just learning how to use this site

I will scroll back

Question not answered

How many times per week of maturbating to porn ok and not a problem for a marriage? What is an addicition to porn defined as?
Lagniapple

If you're having a problem with it, then it's definitely a problem as there is not a standard. Your feelings are VALID

to djjd62
any married person that looks upon another person that is not their partner with lustful intent is commiting adultery. i know that may be hard for you to swallow because you don't want to feel guilty, but the bible makes this very clear. that's why we have the marriage problems that exist today because too many people are looking for a cop-out.