I'm confused about men - again

Two weeks isn't really an awful long time to judge a relationship...
Why don't you just relax a little and see which way this is going...

As long as you are having fun and enjoy each others company, just let it flow.
When the feeling of being used starts to be overwhelming, then I would look into ending it! But don't be fooled by a single sad thought while you are being lonely.

I don't trust him.

Why not, or is it a general thing?

If you don't trust him, why are you wasting your time?

Cos I'm lonely.

(By the way - I know we have not spoken much before but I'm sad that you are going)

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If you don't trust him, don't even bother...
If you are lonely, join a club or find a new hobby.

The more desperate you are looking for a partner, the higher your chances to find a real idiot!

Yeah, see what you mean Bohne.

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Come on Dot!

You don't need to feel lonely - you're funny and kind and I know this from a2k - I'm sure you're even better in person.

Don't sell yourself short. I've always regretted it when I have...and now I'm really happy that I found a wonderful woman this summer...when I was looking least. I never believed that stuff before but...

You'll find your prince when you're ready

KP

Aw thanks KP. I'm sick of waiting though! In the words of the The Smiths "How Soon is Now?"

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The Smiths
How Soon is Now?

I am the son
And the heir
Of a shyness that is criminally vulgar
I am the son and heir
Of nothing in particular

You shut your mouth
How can you say
I go about things the wrong way?
I am human and I need to be loved
Just like everybody else does

I am the son
And the heir
Of a shyness that is criminally vulgar
I am the son and heir
Of nothing in particular

You shut your mouth
How can you say
I go about things the wrong way?
I am human and I need to be loved
Just like everybody else does

There's a club if you'd like to go
You could meet somebody who really loves you
So you go and you stand on your own
And you leave on your own
And you go home and you cry
And you want to die

When you say it's gonna happen "now"
Well when exactly do you mean?
See I've already waited too long
And all my hope is gone

You shut your mouth
How can you say
I go about things the wrong way?
I am human and I need to be loved
Just like everybody else does

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Or,

The Smiths
I know it's Over

Oh Mother, I can feel the soil falling over my head
And as I climb into an empty bed
Oh well. Enough said.
I know it's over - still I cling
I don't know where else I can go
Oh ...
Oh Mother, I can feel the soil falling over my head
See, the sea wants to take me
The knife wants to slit me
Do you think you can help me ?
Sad veiled bride, please be happy
Handsome groom, give her room
Loud, loutish lover, treat her kindly
(Though she needs you
More than she loves you)
And I know it's over - still I cling
I don't know where else I can go
Over and over and over and over
Over and over, la ...
I know it's over
And it never really began
But in my heart it was so real
And you even spoke to me, and said :
"If you're so funny
Then why are you on your own tonight ?
And if you're so clever
Then why are you on your own tonight ?
If you're so very entertaining
Then why are you on your own tonight ?
If you're so very good-looking
Why do you sleep alone tonight ?
I know ...
'Cause tonight is just like any other night
That's why you're on your own tonight
With your triumphs and your charms
While they're in each other's arms..."
It's so easy to laugh
It's so easy to hate
It takes strength to be gentle and kind
Over, over, over, over
It's so easy to laugh
It's so easy to hate
It takes guts to be gentle and kind
Over, over
Love is Natural and Real
But not for you, my love
Not tonight, my love
Love is Natural and Real
But not for such as you and I, my love
Oh Mother, I can feel the soil falling over my head
Oh Mother, I can feel the soil falling over my head
Oh Mother, I can feel the soil falling over my head
Oh Mother, I can feel the soil falling over my ...
Oh Mother, I can feel the soil falling over my head
Oh Mother, I can even feel the soil falling over my head
Oh Mother, I can feel the soil falling over my head
Oh Mother, I can feel the soil falling over my ...

*****

I know those sentiments well, and I've played those songs many times...

Heaven Knows I'm Miserable Now KP

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Keane
Somewhere Only We Know

I walked across an empty land
I knew the pathway like the back of my hand
I felt the earth beneath my feet
Sat by the river and it made me complete

Oh simple thing where have you gone
I'm getting old and I need something to rely on
So tell me when you're gonna let me in
I'm getting tired and I need somewhere to begin

I came across a fallen tree
I felt the branches of it looking at me
Is this the place we used to love?
Is this the place that I've been dreaming of?

Oh simple thing where have you gone
I'm getting old and I need something to rely on
So tell me when you're gonna let me in
I'm getting tired and I need somewhere to begin

And if you have a minute why don't we go
Talk about it somewhere only we know?
This could be the end of everything
So why don't we go
Somewhere only we know?

[break]

Oh simple thing where have you gone
I'm getting old and I need something to rely on
So tell me when you're gonna let me in
I'm getting tired and I need somewhere to begin

So if you have a minute why don't we go
Talk about it somewhere only we know?
This could be the end of everything
So why don't we go
So why don't we go

This could be the end of everything
So why don't we go
Somewhere only we know?

*****

Some day all the sad songs will seem irrelvant and you'll think of them in the past tense. You'll understand again why Stevie Wonder had something wonderful to say and the maudlin wailings will pass into dream land...

I don't believe you.

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Faint heart never won fair lady--nor Prince Charming.

Be sure you're off with the old love before you're on with the new.

It's over.

Get a facial, a massage, a new haircut, lose 5 pounds - whatever will make you feel good enough to get back out there with confidence. The nice thing about the wrong guy departing is that it opens up the possibility of the right one arriving. While your waiting for your prince, I suggest you do things that bring you and your daughter joy.

Sorry if you're sad, DP. You have misgivings about this guy for quite a while. Sometimes it's best to listen to your gut.


Hang in there, he wasn't worth the aggravation (they never are).

Much thanks xxx

Don't lose heart, DP

It's not that important in the grand scheme of things (though it seems so)

Just take a deep breath, find something to be joyful about (there's lots of things) and just carry on regardless!

That's all anyone CAN do...

I'm sure you are loved very much by the people who matter.

xxx

Yeah feeling strangely optimistic for some reason. Thanks smorgana.

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