Re: Different reaction
carolsusan07 wrote:It really makes my day, when some of these ladies tell me what a charming husband I have and how lucky I am to have someone like him. Of course he laps all this up and would start purring like a cat if he could!
As well it should. Seriously, take it as the compliment it was intended to be.
carolsusan07 wrote:... somehow or other it's less enjoyable for me to watch his spirits being lifted. It's not that I don't love him enough to want the best for him, on the contrary, that's what I'm there for, isn't it?
Ah, now I think we're getting somewhere. Do you perhaps think that his new-found buoyancy is a reflection that you haven't done enough to make him happy? If so, then I think you've set much too high a standard for yourself. He isn't/wasn't unhappy - he's told you as much - but no one should look to one source for all their pleasure in life.
carolsusan07 wrote:Thanks for sharing that with me. Your mother sounds as she has the qualities of a saint; which I probably need more of. It's also very touching that she was there for him when he needed it the most. It is sobering to think how circumstances can change for all of us, even for those who are the most vivacious and charming!
Thank you, she was a saint in my eyes, and I miss her. One never knows what the future may bring. Rather than letting your husband's new spark bring you down, realise that it's all being done in fun, and is no reflection on you or what kind of wife you are. If you can release the jealous feelings, you might find yourself able to get a new spark of your own!
carolsusan07 wrote:What I don't enjoy is when he goes off in the midst of a function to chat to these ladies; it makes me feel invisible and worthless. So, to answer your question, yes, I am jealous because he was always there for me before.
I don't have a magic mirror that lets me see exactly what's going on, but I think, in the grander scheme of things at least, he's still there for you.