Sudden interest in opposite sex

This reminds me of watching my father turn on the charm to the ladies. We thought he was being foolish, they thought he was witty and charming. He made them laugh, he made us groan. They fed his ego, we rolled our eyes.

I'm not sure how old your husband is or how long you've been married, but I think he's just enjoying a new audience and getting an ego boost from the attention.

Well, first off, I don't think you mean the opposite sex if you say your husband is interested in other women.

I'm not sure what you would consider middle-aged but I think it's quite normal for men, and women for that matter, to start feeling like they aren't as attractive as they used to be, the opposite sex is no longer attracted to them, etc. In order to compensate for those feelings of loss I think it's normal to try to fill that void. We all need our egos stroked every once in awhile.

If it is a great concern to you, I'd have a sit down with your husband and tell him if it really does bother you that much. Maybe he just feels that you don't find him attractive, desirable, etc., anymore and he needs to know that other women do. That's just a guess because I don't know
either of you.

It's called "mid life crisis" and most everyone goes through it in some form or another.

Chances are he isn't going to buy a ferarri, dye his hair black and get a girlfriend. But it happens.

Also, is he just talking to these people? Maybe he just wants to expand his horizons and meet new people and feel like someone else finds him interesting and desirable to talk to.

The best thing to do is just talk to him. Ask him what's up. You might be suprised to hear the answer.

think you're right, but my husband adamantly denies that his ego is boosted. He says he is just being kind to the ladies, especially those who are alone.

This reminds me of watching my father turn on the charm to the ladies. We thought he was being foolish, they thought he was witty and charming. He made them laugh, he made us groan. They fed his ego, we rolled our eyes.

If I were you, I would not get into a snit about it. In fact, I would make very light of it. I would say something like, "If I were to close my eyes tomorrow, ________________ would be all over you in a heartbeat. Be part of what is happening, and don't take the role of the adversary.

This reminds me of watching my father turn on the charm to the ladies. We thought he was being foolish, they thought he was witty and charming. He made them laugh, he made us groan. They fed his ego, we rolled our eyes.

I'm not sure how old your husband is or how long you've been married, but I think he's just enjoying a new audience and getting an ego boost from the attention.

Phoenix said:

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If I were you, I would not get into a snit about it. In fact, I would make very light of it. I would say something like, "If I were to close my eyes tomorrow, ________________ would be all over you in a heartbeat. Be part of what is happening, and don't take the role of the adversary.

This is what I would suggest, too. Oh, you can have so much fun with this!
You can flirt with your hubby with abandon.

Think of all the benefits: these ladies are doing a lot of the heavy work for you - it's not just me right? men enjoy a lot of ego stroking and sometimes it can get a bit much for one woman.
He's happier, probably flirtier and extra taking care of himself, probably will be a lot of fun times in the bedroom for you if you want.

Hold your head up high and be proud of your man. Still hot n' desirable in his 60's, and you're the one with him, you're the one who goes home with him and gets his loyalty and love.

Sounds to me like you two have a strong, loving relationship that has been through the crucible of time. Hey, that's not so easy to find anymore. It's beautiful. Enjoy, and don't worry about this.

And if one of the ladies crosses the line a bit, why not just get in there and give your hub a big kiss....you're going to be leaving with him, anyways. He'll love it!

Doesn't seem to matter the age, we all like that feeling of being chosen in the midst of some healthy competition. Your competition is light and more of a game than a real challenge - play with it, I think.

take care.

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This reminds me of watching my father turn on the charm to the ladies. We thought he was being foolish, they thought he was witty and charming. He made them laugh, he made us groan. They fed his ego, we rolled our eyes.

I'm not sure how old your husband is or how long you've been married, but I think he's just enjoying a new audience and getting an ego boost from the attention.

Your father's behavior might have made you groan and roll your eyes, but I'm curious to know how your mother dealt with it. It sounds as if I'm closer to her age than yours, having been married for nearly forty one years.