sn wrote:wow !
that article was good.
want to share something :
I spoke to a close relative of mine who is much older than me. I didn't give all the details but mentioned the controlling and abuse.
guess what ?
she said there are millions of women who manage such husbands. she went ahead and gave me examples of such women she knew. says they look perfect outside but live in a loveless or may be abusive marriage.
says if the wife leaves, the husband will move on but it's the wife who is struck with children and the emotional pain.
Itseems there is this woman who did nothing wrong but is not invited to celebrations because she has left her husband. She is sort of avoided by almost all the women she bumps into all because she is single mother and women sort of find her a threat.
That was her perspective. she said when women behave this way, there's no meaning in pointing at men..that's a cruel world..
just wanted to share this conversation with you, friends.
There is no excuse for abuse but women like this relative of mine bring down the self confidence (which is already low anyway:-)) I don't blame her for what she said but oh man!
got to be strong to take that first step.
Hello sn, glad to "meet" you!
I just had to comment on this relative's story... this sort of thing does NOT happen here in the US. Perhaps you should plan to leave while you are here (in the US)? Are your parents still in India?
In the US there's a lot more women living alone with their children, and much more understanding that they are all better off without abusive husbands. No woman is shut out (to my knowledge) for leaving an abusive husband here.
I you'd prefer India, perhaps a nearby city would work better?
I can see you gaining strength with each post, and all our replies. I wish the best of happiness and Freedom in your future! I know you can do it, sn, it's only a matter of when. My thoughts of future happiness and joy are with you.
