nimh wrote:Scrat wrote:You're going to lecture me on civility? ROFLMFAO! Cool, very cool.
Dys' posts may often be elliptical or deadpan, but I've never seen him be outright rude to anyone here.
doesn't necessarily mean he's never done it, I guess, I'm not in every thread after all (counter to how it may seem), but it must at least have been pretty rare.
In your case, on the other hand, I'm always pleasantly surprised when you
are civil and polite.
Perhaps you infer too much into my posts. I am often direct, and sometimes exasperated, but on the whole I tend to offer back what is offered me. If I am at times rude with certain others, it is only because I finally learned that I can expect no civility from them. While I should not let others decide how I am going to behave, sometimes it's just too much work showing respect to people who show you none.
There are also folks like Setanta here with whom I disagree and occasionally exchange salvos of incivility, but at the end of the day Setanta seems to me like someone like me... he's trying to be decent to others in here, but if he feels crossed, he'll let you know it. He has let me know it many times, and many of those I probably deserved it, so I don't complain much these days if he's a little brusque with me. My experience has taught me that if I offer him civility I can generally expect it in return, and likewise I suspect that his experience has taught him that if he treats me with disrespect I am likely to respond in kind.
And FWIW, my comments to Dys may have been a bit sarcastic/ironic in tone, but they weren't meant to be nasty. I can certainly understand him misinterpreting them, but then that's partly the eyes of the beholder, isn't it? Some comments offered in good humor can be taken as nasty if you assume the other person is going to be nasty. A lot of what Dys writes is like that, but I've learned to assume that he's typing with a smile and not a scowl. And who knows, maybe every instance where I thought Dys was being nasty he was just trying to be funny. I could as easily misinterpret him as he could me.
In the end, if I'm looking to take offense, I can usually find it. I suspect the same is true of anyone, Dys included.