2 points....
Montana - if you're in your 40's you really need to get a mammo...
In March a suspicious area was caught via the mamo on my boss.....had a biopsy done.....it was positive.
Fortunately, it was small and encapsulated. It was SO small you could not feel it.....
Bottom line, she's going to her last chemo treatment next Friday (we're all calling her baldy around here

). Who knows what might have happened it she hadn't had it done?
I really can't believe your doc woudn't order a mamo for you....that's awful.
AND MISS MATERIAL GIRL!!!!
I'm just as jumpy as you are at having my nether regions examined by docs, so you can really and truly believe me when I say it's absolutely no big deal.....
If it helps, get a female to do it. She'll probably make small talk with you during that minute to keep you occupied, asking you silly questions like where you work/live etc.
Or....just set your eyes on a point, like a picture of something in the office, and I count backwards from 100....I'll go slow and I don't think I've ever gotten past 80.....it's that quick.
I wouldn't call it pain. OK since it's ladies here...you know how sometimes when you go to insert a tampon and it rubs the wrong way for a second? Absolutely no worse than that.
Oh...I don't know about in England, but in the US, if a male is examining you that way, there has to be a female in the room with you....they'll know it's your first time, and she'll sit right by you and hold your hand and talk nonsense to you and you can talk nonsense to her....it's just done that quick.
If I were there, I'd hold you hand and tell you a joke, and I wouldn't even get to the punchline before it's done. Have your mother or sister or friend go with.