slappy - I'm going to take the 'nice' as in 'nice answer' instead of 'nice' as in 'nice, you cold-hearted biatch'. Because it's Monday, and I could use a compliment.
I think there's just a happy medium between telling someone how much they really mean to you and unloading emotional baggage. johnnysmith seems to be more concerned with letting it all out and less concerned about making sure it's conveyed properly to the woman he cares about. We all react differently - but if I feel like if I should run to get a man I hung out with for 2 months a box of Kleenex just because he's telling me he cares, well, game off.
It seems 24's the magic number for a couple of us. I had known the boy for about 5 years, but our 1st 'date' was when I was 24. We took his motorcycle to the the Cantab, drank Miller Lites and listened to Little Joe Cook & The Thrillers. We're still together. Yep, it's all about the romance.
I've since moved on up to Miller High Lifes, though.
slappy, 2 months of sleeping with someone and telling them you love them will not make the woman flee if you have read the situation correctly. in other words, if it's the right person, then telling them you love them is not a problem, it a gift. on the other hand, if the agreement between the two parties is that the sex is casual, then there is a problem.
it's true, women want as much of a challenge from men as men want from women. it's uncomfortable and annoying to meet someone who pours on the affection early on. and, a lot of hooking up with someone is about taking it as it comes, enjoying the moment and not putting pressure to confirm a blissful union.
no, i don't know what kind of woman you've dealt with, so perhaps the wording would be better suited to "how" you deal with women: getting laid, getting blow-jobs, getting loaded. no doubt, you encounter many, many "hot" women in your pursuit of poontang, and the gist of your posts are entertaining, but superficial.
and, i'm not saying that just because he's slept with this woman he "owns" her, au contraire. i'm saying if there was some regular sex with this female then part of the condition of the relationship is different had he not slept with her. in other words, it isn't a hopeless fantasy in his mind. sex alters any relationship, whether it's a one night stand or a longer term situation.
also, when you talk about good looking women who have had everything handed to them, that says more about the kind of woman you pursue, then johnnysmith's situation. being a "nice guy" is not a death knell for a potentional relationship. what kills the chances of a woman being attracted to some guy is that he is boring, or has no edge. i don't care if you are the most attractive man on the planet, if those chicks nixed any association with you because you are a "nice" guy then more or less they are telling you you are a dullard.
Sugar, of course I meant "nice answer."
Gala, it's obvious you're making assumptions on what kind of women I date, or what I'm looking for from women based on my typical, light+fun posts/responses. Thanks for telling me my goal is to "pursue poontang," and just get blow jobs and get laid. Where did I say that all I'm after is sex? Um, nowhere.
Like I said, there's no set acceptable time limit for the "love" word, I just think 2 months is way too soon...I need at LEAST 2 months with a girl before I decide she should be a girlfriend or not. Maybe our definition of "love" is different.
Not maybe, slappy, definitely.
gee, bipolar, i guess for every sock there is a shoe.
WOW,
This A2K site is legit. I leave for one day and look how much debate. As for the alcoholic thing, not a chance, I haven't been drunk since that night, and unfortunately not for many nights before that. The particular night I sort of succumbed to peer pressure, and we all know how fast liquor works on an empty stomach. slappy, you have done me alot of good, all of a sudden I totally realized my problem, I wasn't having fun with her in the moment. Worrying about it only made it worse. I am now alot more happy and confident to talk to her again whenever, actually, it doesn;t even matter so much anymore, which I DO believe is the way this could possibly work out. So next time its all fun and games, which is my natural style and hers, and we'll see...
Hey if it's your natural style and hers, excellent. Good luck!!
Pleased to hear it johnny.
You go Johnny. Have a great time and just enjoy yourself and if you meet someone you like, make sure to act confident with yourself and just have fun. The cool thing about relationships is that they just happen when you least expect it and usually don't happen when you try too hard ;-)
gozmo
I didn't see anything in Johnny's post that even resembled alcoholic behavior. Just because someone may get tipsy on occation at a party doesn't mean their an alcoholic. If your profession deals with counselling alcoholics, then I think you should look for another profession because your comments to Johnny were out of line coming from a professional and sound exactly like something a recovering alcoholic would say. I have plenty of experience on this issue.
Montana,
Should my experience bow to yours or yours to mine. Perhaps we both need to call it as we see it and be respectful to each other. So far it seems I have been hasty but you are being arrogant and underhand.
The barb that I am a recovering alcoholic is pure bitchiness and so wide of the mark that I am laughing aloud. I commenced in my occupation thirty years ago when my wife succumbed to serious and debilitating mental illness. I cared for her and continued working by day in the accounting field. I became heavily involved with support groups and found that there was always a group needing help. I retired early and am voluntarily involved in caring for a group of people who have limited capacity due to mental illness, drug abuse and alcohol abuse. You see I am not a professional and have not used that term in respect of myself. I do have vast experience and my opinion is ocassionally sought by some who do describe themselves as professionals.
I was pleased to see Johnny check in and the manner of his response suggests that my concern was ill founded, it is a joy to be wrong.
I cannot understand the hostility my concern has provoked. It seems that natural response is not valued here. Would you prefer that I serve up Sanitarium or Kellogs processed pap in future.
Gozmo, last weekend I went out with some friends to a party. Last thing I remember at the party was playing a really fun tequilla drinking game.
Next thing I remember, I wake up in the morning, tied to a tree with my penis tucked between my legs with a sign on my chest that says "World's Ugliest Woman."
Is THIS alcoholic behavior?
And Johnnysmith...good luck!
Oh God, there goes Montana...winking at me again!
Slappy Doo Hoo wrote:Gozmo, last weekend I went out with some friends to a party. Last thing I remember at the party was playing a really fun tequilla drinking game.
Next thing I remember, I wake up in the morning, tied to a tree with my penis tucked between my legs with a sign on my chest that says "World's Ugliest Woman."
Is THIS alcoholic behavior?
And Johnnysmith...good luck!
No, but if you were supposed to pick up the kids .............
I remember tucking it away and pretending I was a woman - at fifteen it was the nearest thing to a naked woman I'd seen.
haha...thankfully kids these days have "Victoria's Secret" catalogues.
gozmo wrote:Montana,
Should my experience bow to yours or yours to mine. Perhaps we both need to call it as we see it and be respectful to each other. So far it seems I have been hasty but you are being arrogant and underhand.
The barb that I am a recovering alcoholic is pure bitchiness and so wide of the mark that I am laughing aloud. I commenced in my occupation thirty years ago when my wife succumbed to serious and debilitating mental illness. I cared for her and continued working by day in the accounting field. I became heavily involved with support groups and found that there was always a group needing help. I retired early and am voluntarily involved in caring for a group of people who have limited capacity due to mental illness, drug abuse and alcohol abuse. You see I am not a professional and have not used that term in respect of myself. I do have vast experience and my opinion is ocassionally sought by some who do describe themselves as professionals.
I was pleased to see Johnny check in and the manner of his response suggests that my concern was ill founded, it is a joy to be wrong.
I cannot understand the hostility my concern has provoked. It seems that natural response is not valued here. Would you prefer that I serve up Sanitarium or Kellogs processed pap in future.
Gozmo
I felt that you were the one being arrogant. I think that you were insulting Johnny by suggesting that he had a drinking problem and I can't see anything in his first post that would have even made you think it. You should understand this since you pretty much called me a bitch just for suggesting that you were a recovering alcoholic. I'm not being hostile at all. I was just pointing out that I felt you were out of line with what you were saying.
