Kuk wrote:
What I would like to ask you to do is to imagine telling your story to someone like
this guy, or maybe
this guy.
How much empathy do you think you'd get if you told them your little story about the "discrimination" you experienced? They'd probably pat you on the head patronizingly and smile in agreement, but I'd be willing to bet good hard cash that in their minds, they'd be saying something along the lines of...
Quote:Aaaaw, the poor little white girl got her feelings hurt. Alert the media!
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Of course she is going to tell her story first.
The whole reason for starting the post was her talking about how it made her feel.
There are many unknown factors as to why this woman looked ( literally) over her to choose another woman to 'save her seat'.
Maybe , at that point in time, Bella looked too involved and this womans decision was , in her mind , a sign of respect? Who knows?
But the fact is that it left Bella in a state of question , wich made her think in broader terms.
You cant minimize what a person feels by someones actions.
And for her , this was bothersome.
No, not on a racial level that OTHERS experience, there you are absolutly right. There will always be someone out there who has experienced racisim MORE then the next person..
But on a basic human level, this bothered her.
Kuk wrote:
It offends me that you felt the need to pretend that you have some firsthand knowledge of what discrimination feels like by telling everyone your little "brush with the ignorant black ladies" story. It smacks of bad taste and meddlesome self-righteousness..
Why?
If this is the extent of 'racisim' someone has experienced, why is it rude for that person to speak of how it made them feel?
Feeling less than because of something you can not control , such as skin color, leaves all humans in a bit of pain and frustration.
No matter to what degree it happens.
Kuk wrote:
You could have made your point by simply saying the three words, "discrimination is bad," but instead you decided to tell your story first, so that we'd all know how it affected YOU. As if you are a "sister in the fight," or a kindred spirit who has been victimized too. Any person who has experienced real racism would easily understand why I responded as I did.
I have been the object of racisim. From rape to beatings.
I do understand where you are coming from, but I dont get the hostility.
I think the key here is personal perception.
She is lucky that this , if this was all about race, was all she has experienced. But I dont angrily minimize because this story IS about her, and how it made HER feel. And it is followed with HER realizing or imagining how it would feel for someone on a grander scale..
) and say "The nerve of that damn chulo" and all watch the movie together.
