Well, I'm Jewish, born, bred, raised in a Kosher home, the whole bit, and my parents would have never in a million years dreamed of arranging my marriage. Did they want me to marry a Jewish man? Yes, they expressed that as a preference but basically they just wanted me to be happy. I ended up marrying a Jewish man, actually, but neither of us were specifically looking for a Jewish match.
Jewish arranged marriages, except among the ultraOrthodox, have been out of fashion for, what, a hundred years? Something like that. I have relatives who are Orthodox and, while there is some pushing in the direction of one partner or another, these aren't arranged marriages, per se.
PS Glad you're comfortable with who you are -- we all should be. Oh, and Happy Purim!
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