Stray Cat wrote:You might become one of those touchy-feely people too!
God Forbid
I love to be hugged and held by my husband. It's like food for my soul.
With a couple of close friends, we exchange hugs on hellos and goodbyes.
With people I know slighty, it depends. If I know they are a good hearted, huggy person, I don't mind if they don't make a big deal about it. Kinda like how some women can get away with calling everybody 'honey' and it sound natural.
If it's one of those people that are always making a show of something, I hate it.
If a stranger tries to hug me.....they're going to get an arm full of iron. BACK OFF!
Related to hugs.....How large is your personal space?
If I'm talking to someone, I am most comfortable if both of us can extend our arms and our fingertips touch. Closer than that, it's an invasion.
I'm a big observer of body language. and I need this space to read their entire body. I hate it when someone right on top of you, and all you can see it their big fat face.
If someone standing that close, I'll take a step back. Unfortunatley, some of these 'close encounter' people just take a step forward.
I know this woman that would do that ALL the time. One day when I wasn't feeling great, really stressed out, I had to meet with her.....
She started her crowding and all of a sudden, I thrust my arm out, put it on her shoulder, and stopped her. I stepped back two steps and told her this is where I felt comfortable as far as distance.
I was pleasantly surprised when she was totally gracious about it, and from then on, unless we are huddled over a project, that's how far she stays.
Clue - if you're talking to someone and they back away, don't follow them, you making them nervous.