Re: The Power of Hugs
Tomkitten wrote:The size of personal space seems to be as much a function of a person's particular culture as anything else. In the West we seem to require a minimum of arm's length, preferably a bit more, but in crowded countries, like Japan, personal space is barely even a consideration; people even feel anxious when too far away from other people.
Funny - I havent ever been to Japan - but my own kind of west-east contrast is the opposite. The one girl here I complained to about how, it seems, at first blush, Hungarians are relatively non-physical, as friends (I put it slightly less nuanced than that...) and who responded "oh yeah I hate that too!", is American, and we made it kind of a point to catch up on missed-out hugs whenever we see each other.
There is also this American guy I go out for a drink with sometimes who does the whole touching-your-arm thing and stands so close to you when talking (he also has this low, soft voice that must do well with the wimmin) that even I take a step back. And yes, at a concert a while ago (where admittedly you have to talk loud) I kept taking a step back, and him taking another one closer, heh.
I kinda thought that, if anything, Americans were more physical, more free. Well, my Dutch friends tend to all be pretty huggy too, but I wouldnt so much ascribe that to Dutchness as more to the kind of people I sought out... (remind me not to hug Dag next time I see her. Actually, funny, come to think of it; when I saw her I did indeed never think of doing so. I guess you
can kind of sense it, tho I didnt realise it..)