Roofingguy wrote:....... if you are not the first do you ever wonder if he or she remembers the other person while intimate with you???
but im asking about eachoters mind .... does anything like this go on inside????.....do you feel this .... if so ... what did you do???...how did you handle this feeling???
No. I dont think about that. That is in my opinion a HUGE sign of insecurity on the " wonderers' part and a serious control issue. You can not make someone THINK or not THINK about something. And to worry about what they think, in my opinion, means you question yourself in some strange ways.
On the idea of virginity, I think it doesnt need to be thought of as a ' gift' you give to someone, nor it is a bonus for that person.
It is simply a choice . It doesnt make you a better person, and it doesnt make you a bad person to decide to have sex with someone wether you are married or not.
Sex is a human function, drive, need and the essence of why we as a species are still alive to day. I do not believe there should be any stake placed on someones hymen.
