iknow wrote:fiver wrote:This debate has been really helpful my friends but has done little to ease the pain of the fact that my little darling goes elsewhere takes down her underwear and spreads herself for willing sexual intercourse with .....
well if you're sure you can cheat on her to balance it out.
It doesn't work that way!
Montana wrote:iknow wrote:fiver wrote:This debate has been really helpful my friends but has done little to ease the pain of the fact that my little darling goes elsewhere takes down her underwear and spreads herself for willing sexual intercourse with .....
well if you're sure you can cheat on her to balance it out.
It doesn't work that way!
i think it does. that way he will feel less badly about her cheating on him. less guilty.
No he won't. It'll just make him feel worse. Two wrongs never make a right.
All it would do is make him as bad as her, if she was actually cheating.
Why would you ever lower your standards to someone elses level out of spite? You'd only be hurting yourself by doing this.
He cheats on her, he throws away his own self respect!
Montana wrote:No he won't. It'll just make him feel worse. Two wrongs never make a right.
All it would do is make him as bad as her, if she was actually cheating.
Why would you ever lower your standards to someone elses level out of spite? You'd only be hurting yourself by doing this.
no it would jsut be converting the relationship to a free love type instead of the regular type. no biggie.
Easy for you to say! If it was my relationship, it would be a huge biggie!
A free love relationship is one you'll never see me in and somehow I don't think fiver would consider it either.
If I'm right and she is playing away then she is just a cheap whore as you put it
I've no intention of cheating but my gut instinct, sixth sense, whatever we call it tells me she is and Im not prepared to continue living a lie
fiver- In my younger days, especially when I had some rough points in my marriage, I have had what could be called, a number of "emotional affairs". I would be attracted to someone, fall in love, and spend a lot of time fantacizing, (and talking) about the person.
Sometimes the "affair" would be from afar. Sometimes it was a person with whom I had close contact, like at work. But I did not cheat physically, and eventually, the infatuation would pass.
You married your wife for a reason. You love her. You don't know that she is cheating on you, but you are too quick to judge her. Try to open yourself up to her. Allow the two of you to work things out. Your marriage will be stronger for it.
Not if she s screwing around it wont!
Marriage is a "work in progress", and it is HARD work. As soon as one of the partners throws up his hands, and won't attempt to work out the bumpy places, the marriage is doomed. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy!
Interesting you say 'his' hands. I got into this relationship for life and if she has gone elsewhere that is the worst betrayal, end of story because I'm worth more than that.
fiver- One more time, (and I suspect this will be the last). You don't know that she is cheating. She might be, and then again she might not. You don't seem to be willing to find out.
If I were on trial, I would not want you on the jury. I suspect that you would have made your mind up that I was guilty, before the all the evidence was presented!
I'll find out today and if she is , is it still my fault? Dont think so.
Why do you think in terms of fault? Marriage is much too complicated for that.
Maybe so but screwing around is not an integral factor, sorry.
