OK my question is this if she so concerned about that why does she still want to move forward please I need to know why doit n risk her marriage then .
Why the frack do people come here and ask random strangers questions they absolutely cannot answer. Hint: the only person who can answer your question is ...
You have a choice.
1. marriage counseling;
2. you accept her proposal for an open marriage/relationship AND you don't passively aggressive abuse her emotionally and/or physically abuse her because of this choice;
3. you divorce her and you both move on with your respective lives.