@Frank Apisa,
Frank Apisa wrote:
You are a married couple...and sex is a part of that dynamic.
Lots of things are "part of that dynamic", but things often change. We used to like to go to concerts, dances, festivals, etc. But I have become an early bird and my husband is still a night owl so he goes with friends and I go to bed. Also, the music is so loud it hurts my ears, so I could wear ear plugs, sit outside (when possible), suffer it out, or not go.
I no longer have any interest in going to football games. He no longer wants to go on drives into the country. We no longer throw big parties.
You get older and we age, sometimes differently. But as long as there's mutual respect and loving, you can work it out.
We both have friends we'll do those things with. It's obviously different with sex, but if I was done with that, I''d be done. Period.
But I will give you a point for suggesting counselling. It may be painful for her, physically, in which case she should see a doctor. It may be something else. For sure, they need to talk about it (and I hope they have or will), but if she's not interested, that needs to be respected. Unfortunately for the OP.