The ugly past returning!!

MG - of course she denies it - he is her current beau.
Reminding her will only make her get mad at you - not him.

Another friend bought it up with her and I dont think there was any hooha, but I wouldnt bring it up.
Its her life and il leave her to it like i did with her previous bf(no idea why she went out with him either).


It just doesnt add up.

Most of us don't "get" the romantic interests of other people.

If he's still the same guy he was the last time round, he'll mess things up again on his own. If he's changed, you'll all see it over time. Lucky him, he gets to be on probation with "the friends" (and probably does realize it).

You are not responsible for any of your friends frogs--present, past of future. She likes to fall in love with frogs.

Yeah, I know Im not responsible for my friends choices but its really annoying as it effects me now.Im not even in the same room as him and just the thought is getting me down.I think about it when I should be trying to think of nice things

Doubt he'd care if he was on probabtion.Sadly I think they love each other madly and are, in an odd way, made for each other.
Id hate for him to be around for ever more and me still hate him.It would drain me too much,suppose Im gona have to change.

material girl--



Accept that your disgust won't change him and invest in a symbolic pair of emotional oven mitts lined with surgical latex for those occasions when you must shake his hand.

Uuurgh, you forget,he doesnt shake hands, he cups the face so you cant get away then plants a slobbery kiss.

"Ewwww" is an appropriate response.

How about -
'Get the hell off me(in ref to his yucky hello kisses), I dont want you anywhere near me and your patronising, immature ways are a thing in the long distant past, you dont add to my life, you just take.Leave my friend alone because she can do better than you and deserves someone who isnt going to pass private emotional letters around to his male friends so they can have a good laugh at them.'

Or would a ' heeeeeey, your looking well, how have you been' be more acceptable?

How about carrying a tissue and blowing your nose into it right before he approaches you? (Be sure to speak in nasal tones so he'll think you're contagious.)

material girl--



You have every right to object to being slobbered on.

You have the right to chew the creep out in public--and devastate your friends feelings.

You are not required to lie.

Your all so wise and fair.

Your right I shouldnt hide my thoughts but I dont want to cause friction plus as someone said, its not gona change who my friend goes out with if I dont get on with them.

Still havnt crossed paths tho my friend was like a love struck teenager the other day as she spent an evening without him!!!I didnt say anything but wanted to shake her out of her trance.

material girl--

Five points for restraint and another five points for listening.

This is where you simply say "no" and back away. You can offer to shake hands or not. But you do say "no" to physical contact you don't want.

Yeah, but it immediatley arouses suspicion that all is not well in 'Friend land'

Sounds like you need to make your personal boundaries clearer, in general.

Haha, there are some guys I know that Id love to give me a kiss hello ,but they never do.

I have a feeling itl be one of the first things this guy does so I dont think there will be time for establishing how things have changed and forming new personal boundaries.


Grrr, its annoying me, just for thinking about it so much, its so stupid.When Im trying to get to sleep its the last thing I think about and it just winds me up.
I just want to be prepared for when it happens.

Material girl--

Where did you get the idea that this guy is entitled to slobber on your face?

I'm with ehBeth. Decide that Slobber Time is long gone. When this guy approaches stick out your hand and say, "Hi!"--loud and clear.

If he grabs, shove and announce, "No thanks"--loud and clear.

If he makes a crack about you being picky or frigid or unfriendly--agree with him--loud and clear.

Would you rather be confrontational or slobbered on? Your choice.

Material Girl --

I'd suggest doing a "Princess Di" -- when he comes up and tries to kiss you, just turn your face away completely.

But I agree with what osso said. I think if you try to say anything now, you might come off looking jealous. Probably better not to say anything to your friend about it.

However, it sounds like you're not the only one in your group of friends who doesn't like him (e.g., the married couple whose liquor he drank). So, if worst comes to worst, your friend and her obnoxious BF might be the ones to lose out on the group of friends.

What I'm trying to say is, you still have the other friends in your group to talk to and socialize with. If I found myself at an event with the friend and the obnoxious jerk, I'd just try to spend most of my time talking with my other friends. I'd ignore the jerk as much as possible.

But, I agree with the other people here -- if he's rude to you in any way --there's no reason why you have to put with up it. You should feel free to let him know that you don't appreciate it. Whether your friend likes it or not. You're not obligated to take crap from him just because she does.

I hope, like you do, that she wises up.

I agree completely, Stray Cat, and agree with you all about not taking a slobbery kiss that is maintained by a tight grab. I might knee him if I was agile enough. (Picturing self kneeing and missing completely...)
At any rate, I would squirm out and make a curt reply - and then keep talking with others as if that had just been a pesky
interruption.

It's been a while since this fellow was around and maybe even he doesn't do that any more.