material girl--
No one said you had to welcome him. Your role in this mess is that of a sophisticated woman of the world, polite but distant.
With steel-toed boot caps (should you need them).
Thanks guys.
Mwoahahahaha.I bought some killer heeled boots at the weekend, they may come in handy.
Its gona take alot of acting to get through this.
I had a horrid thought the other day that they may get married.
It seem like destiny that they both happened to be single when he returned and they both wanted to meet up, they got together officailly within about 2 weeks.
I suppose im gona have to change the way I think if he is gona be a permanant fixture.Shudder!!
wait a sec, please do not tell me that the fact that he used you(how did he do that? did u guys have intimate relationship?)makes you feel unconfortable. It is a tyical female reaction, when the guy whom you've been with(does not matter for how long) goes back to the previous one. Hurts, does not it? :wink:
NoNe--
After my divorce when my ex-husband began dating, my sympathies were all with the new women in his life.
It was more than a kiss but no way as much as rumpy pumpy.
Im not uncomfortable with it at all.
I remember he didnt see me for about a month after it happened and when he saw me HE was the one that was uncomfortable, he acted all strange and pally eg embarrassed smile,ruffling my hair (!!!)which he'd never done before! I was surprisingly ok with it.
I didnt love him or anything he was just a charmer, very popular and me being the not so pretty teenager I fell for his moves as I just wanted to be liked by someone.(Im sure we have all been there)
The only thing that hurts is that he on purposely used a naive person and he didnt think it would effect me, he hasnt got a clue how confused I was and probably couldnt care less.
He's basically got away with it scot free.
Noddy24-My sympathys are with my friend too.He treated her so badly she used to refer to him as 'sh*thead'.And yet they are going back out with each other.I hope to God they have both changed.
EEK, social event planned for this week,he is probably going to be there.The anger is welling up!
Calm, dignified and deadly.
Calm, dignified and deadly.
Practice withering glances.
Step 1: Dress Appropriately
Studded collar, ripped muscle shirt revealing your "Boom-Booms-girl" tattoo, tight lycra pants with safety pins holding crotch together, hair teased and hiding gobs of chewing gum in various places.
Step 2: Accessorize
Black out one of your front teeth and pencil in a large scar onto your face. A love-bit is always good but don't overdo it.
Step 3: Greet numb-nuts with a hearty slap on the back (make it hurt). Ask if he has been working out and if not you'd like to introduce him to your close pal "Bubba" who will be driving by around 9pm to pick you up on a stolen Harley.
Step 4: Ask him if he has some hard drugs. If he responds "yes", whip out a badge and tell him it's a sting operation and he is under arrest for being the biggest crap piece of a man to ever grace the planet. Truss him up like a chicken and beat him with a spatula from the kitchen. If he responds "no", tell him to sniff his drinks carefully as "Mange" likes to slip at least one person at every "event" a strange cocktail as he is working on his college thesis on how Frankenstein was created and how to duplicate in the 21st century.
Step 5: Pick your nose openly and wipe it on his jacket. If he complains tell him it's just like swapping spit and sure doesn't he do that with everyone he meets anyways. What's the big deal?
All in all, I think this is what Noddy meant. Have a nice evening. Oh and at the end of it, invite them both over to your place for a blood-drinking session. Explain how you have found a new religion with vampires and you need new subjects to sip from.
Heeven--
I believe we frequent different social circles. You are obviously a Woman of Clear Action while I prefer understatement.
Oh pooh, I KNOW you and I are thinking the same thing - you're just nice about it!
Heeven--
Your approach to civilizing the world is much more colorful and direct than I could ever manage.
You have elan.
My preference would be to be bored by his presence - I mean, actually bored.
Osso qualifies as a grande dame.
There is always the Canajun Ice approach ... on meeting him at a get-together ...
"Ah, have we been introduced?"
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Material Girl - whatever happens between the goof and your friend is going to happen regardless of what you say or do. So, say as little as possible. Smile vaguely, ignore him when possible, let him braid his own rope for hanging.
I agree with that, ehBeth.
Grande dame or Auntie Mame...
U should live ur own life-They r adults, and they should live their lives. That's the life, and she is not a 13 year old teen girl who need's her mom's advices on her relationship with her BF. Just try to be calm and coldblooded.
Haha, you guys are funny, thanks for the advice.
Seems this weeks social gathering may be postponed(phew).
Ossobucco-If he hasnt changed i wont have to pretend to be bored, itl just be the same old rehashed patronising cr*p.
My friend denies EVER refering to him as sh*thead!! (er wrong!!)and claims it was another bf.
