Quote:The older Mo gets the worse his reaction to "going" is.
This is a worrying situation. It will be solved naturally before Mo graduates from high school. Since kindergarten will start in about 14 months, starting to take steps makes sense.
Do you ever leave Mo with a babysitter? How does he react to being on his turf without you?
Does he go places with people who aren't from his birth family?
The compromise of "let's all play at Mo's house" is a good one for the time being, but it can't go on forever. At the same time you are right not to force Mo to go with people for whom he has profound distrust. Aside from the immediate insult to his psyche and common sense you are announcing to him that he should disregard his instincts.
This leads to child molesters, unfriendly neighborhood gangs, flim-flam artists and designing women.
Believe me, I remember that every Afternoon Out for a child meant a piece of private time for me. Down the road, this will happen.
Would it be possible for you to go with Mo and Aunt T? Or Mo and the Grandparents for any trip by car?
Is there a worthy destination within walking distance? Even walking to the corner with someone who is Not You would be a start. First to the corner, then around the block....
Avoid routes where he'd have to cross streets to get back to the safety of home.
A gradual approach would allow Mo to get used to the idea. Going on foot puts him in charge--he's smart enough to know that in a car, he's helpless.
Before the visit with his mother in which she discussed moving to California was he willing to go on excursions without you?
Can you ring in Dora the Explorer as a role model?
Exasperating, isn't it, that this is a kid who gives you the heebie-jeebies by disappearing on an irregular basis?