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Would a man attack his wife for his cell phone if he wasn’t cheating?

 
 
K2lo737
 
Mon 11 May, 2020 02:34 pm
My husband has been caught cheating on me several times. Last time he promised I could have open access to his phone. Yesterday he caught me trying to look through it and attacked me for it when I didn’t give it back. Is adamant he did nothing wrong.
 
ehBeth
 
  5  
Mon 11 May, 2020 02:58 pm
@K2lo737,
K2lo737 wrote:
Last time he promised I could have open access to his phone. Yesterday he caught me trying to look through it and attacked me for it when I didn’t give it back.


perhaps ask him for phone to look at it

seems like cheating is the least of your relationship problems based just on your description of this one situation
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tsarstepan
 
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Wed 13 May, 2020 09:20 am
@K2lo737,
Your husband committed violent assault and his potential cheating is what you want to focus on?

Quote:
Would a man attack his wife for his cell phone if he wasn’t cheating?

Don't ask random strangers questions we cannot possibly answer. The only person who knows that answer is your husband. And maybe a PI who can investigate whether your husband is having an affair with someone else.

One might say, the act of you looking into his phone is a nearly unforgivable betrayal of the trust that makes up your marriage. That's another way to interpret his overblown reaction towards him finding out your snooping activity, (an explanation not a condoning of said violent response).
Ragman
 
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Wed 13 May, 2020 09:33 am
@K2lo737,
You haven’t described what you mean by attack. Was he violent or was it verbal? Regardless, this is bad no matter how you look at it. Is your safety at risk? His response No Matter what is totally unacceptable. All of this dwarfs your looking at his cell phone. It’s minor in comparison and not unproved as he’s a serial cheater, right?

He wants to play by his own rules or no rules at all. Sad to say but that’s no one’s idea of a marriage. Some might suggest a counselor. Would he accept counseling? He seems to want control.
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ehBeth
 
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Wed 13 May, 2020 01:53 pm
@tsarstepan,
tsarstepan wrote:
Your husband committed violent assault



where are you getting this from?

an attack could be disagreement, yelling or a physical assault

we have no way of knowing what the poster meant
maxdancona
 
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Wed 13 May, 2020 03:08 pm
@K2lo737,
For God's sake. Get a divorce already!

There is no way in hell I would let my wife investigate my phone. If we had reached that point, the marriage is clearly over. On the other hand he shouldn't be "attacking" you. If he was smart he would just put a password lock on it.

The marriage is over. You are now just trying to assign the blame. Stop playing stupid games and end it.
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Leadfoot
 
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Thu 14 May, 2020 07:21 am
Wow, below viewing threshold for stating the obvious. Amazing.

maxdancona
 
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Thu 14 May, 2020 07:54 am
@Leadfoot,
Leadfoot wrote:

Wow, below viewing threshold for stating the obvious. Amazing.


It is not that amazing. I recently got a -13 for questioning whether people with no training should be making psychiatric diagnoses on people. I get a -4 just for being me, the -6 isn't a big deal.
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maxdancona
 
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Thu 14 May, 2020 07:56 am
I think this thread is ridiculous... it is a fight over whether a woman has the right to inspect the cellphone of her spouse.

No one seems to have a problem with that.

This is another case where if the genders were reversed; and this was a man demanding to see his wife's cellphone, the responses would be very different. My answer would be the same.
tsarstepan
 
  1  
Thu 14 May, 2020 09:40 am
@ehBeth,
ehBeth wrote:

tsarstepan wrote:
Your husband committed violent assault



where are you getting this from?

an attack could be disagreement, yelling or a physical assault

we have no way of knowing what the poster meant

Without context, we're allowed to jump to conclusions (unless this is the first post online post ever onto the internet by this user which I suspect not... therefore ... it's her responsibility to better specify what she means and not wield hyperbolic words like ATTACK in lieu of more suitable terms like yell or challenge, etc...).
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tsarstepan
 
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Thu 14 May, 2020 09:45 am
@maxdancona,
maxdancona wrote:

No one seems to have a problem with that.


Don't make 100% statements like this ... without actually doing the proper due diligence that will immediately break your statement.

tsarstepan wrote:


One might say, the act of you looking into his phone is a nearly unforgivable betrayal of the trust that makes up your marriage. That's another way to interpret his overblown reaction towards him finding out your snooping activity, (an explanation not a condoning of said violent response).
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Medusax
 
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Tue 19 May, 2020 12:10 pm
@K2lo737,
If there is nothing to hide, who cares if your significant other looks at your phone? *shrugs* And if he has cheated "several times", as you stated, WHY are you with him?
maxdancona
 
  1  
Tue 19 May, 2020 12:17 pm
@Medusax,
Medusax wrote:

If there is nothing to hide, who cares if your significant other looks at your phone? x


I would (and I think many other people would too).

Quote:
And if he has cheated "several times", as you stated, WHY are you with him?


This is a very good question.
Medusax
 
  1  
Sun 24 May, 2020 02:21 pm
@maxdancona,
WHY would you care? WHAT are you hiding?
maxdancona
 
  3  
Tue 26 May, 2020 05:47 am
@Medusax,
Quote:
WHY would you care? WHAT are you hiding?


So you let your partner spy on you?

If my partner wants to spy on my cell phone so they can find out what I am hiding... that is the end of my relationship.

I might not have anything to hide. So what? Demanding to see your partner's cell phone is controlling and abusive.
Medusax
 
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Fri 29 May, 2020 08:31 pm
@maxdancona,
Well...you see...there was nothing to spy ON. I really don't think my SO reading a text from my BF that asked whether I wanted to go shopping on Saturday and other like queries is something that needs to be hidden.
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