Diane wrote:Deb, by catching up on your thread, I can easily understand why you would go to the trouble to find another job. Unfortunate, isn't it, that management, with its own neuroses, seems to fail its employees to the point of actually planning unload sessions and failing to follow through? Even if it is the employees who fail to follow through, management could show enough support that the employees would feel more enthusiasm and confidence about attending a meeting.
Good for you for allowing your mistakes to be seen by others. Maybe in a few years, long after you're gone to another job, they will finally see the vital need for collective discussions.
Have you ever thought of starting your own practice? Yep, I realize the potential insanity involved with that, but still, you'd be the boss. Would management skills be easier for you as the boss?
Actually, management DID follow through with "unload" sessions......but the staff reaction, en masse, was very negative.
I kind of didn't really get why, because I thought it was potentially useful (there were a few, organised with an outside person, who I knew from before and respected).
People seemed to be saying they didn't feel safe....and I CAN sort of get that (I don't feel very safe there...but not to the point of not being prepared to say things).
I kind of think where I work is maybe more the norm in such respects than where I was before, though there is starting to be a bit more sharing.
Another impediment, I think, is having so many part time staff where I am.....part time people tend to be less available for such stuff.
The other think affecting only me is I am the ONLY person doing my job where work.....I have no natural team at all. There is someone else doing the same job from another location, but our ability to support each other is limited, though we do try.
My sense is similar problems existed the previous time they tried to have the service I am running, and I think it kind of imploded because of people feeling very isolated and unsupported.....so they have tried to address that with a different structure this time, but it kind of isn't working.
I do suddenly overreact to negative events from time to time, which is part of what is happening right now.........damned if I know exactly why, unless it is some sort of cyclic mood thing (which is pretty common) or just the odd hormonal upheaval, plus just how I am programmed cognitively schematically, and emotionally regulationally, speaking from my particular history.
Whatever...it's a pain!
I don't have the energy to set up private practice.....it's really a big deal to do, and I am pretty dedicated to trying to work with the people who could never afford that, and really need services.
Who knows what the future holds?
Frankly, being a kept woman looks good now!!!!! I just never go out with people with any money!!
