Help! Somebody talk me out of it!

Sorry, kicky. I can't think of a good reason for you not to. How long have you lived in the city? Maybe you could use a change.

Can you afford to give your notice? Will you have enough funds to carry you through the several months it may take to get the freelance work built up to a livable income?

Freeduck, I've been here 7 years. And I love this city. But if I have to leave to be happier, so be it. I'll miss it dearly, but I'll do it.

Aaah, good questions, Squinney. Yes, yes, and yes. Also, when I said freelance, I didn't mean completely going out on my own and digging up my own clients. I meant freelancing through agencies. There are literally hundreds of them in NYC. It's not like I'll have to build up any clientelle, unless I want to. I should be able to get temporary assignments to keep me going for awhile without too much trouble. I hope.

No, Kicky! Don't do it. Stay where you are. You so frequently post about how happy you are with your current situation .... a change from that can be nothing but a bad idea.

Ha!

put in your notice.
get it over with
enjoy the feeling of freedom
and move on to a diffrent life.


sorry, i cant tell you to stay put in something you dont like. Life is short. If you dont enjoy it now , it will be gone later.

Thanks, Shewolf. I know, I know...I've been going over it in my head for the past week. Everyday I decide to do it, then I talk myself out of it...I keep telling myself that if I wait just a little bit longer I'll have that little bit more money and I'll be just that little bit more prepared.

Damn, it's amazing how hard it is to let go of something, even something you hate, after you get used to it! The unknown is really scary...

f-k the little bit more money.
If having that little bit of money is TRULY important, cut back on your spending during your job transition. Scrimp pinch penny count for the next month or so. You can do it.


now ONWARD soldier...
Go FORTH and prosper...

hehe ( im such a dork )

Can you talk to some of these agencies first? See what the hiring climate is like?

From what little I know, things are really tight and competitive these days, overqualified people fighting for scraps. It might not be what you're expecting from last time you were out there.

Can't hurt to just check.

Start at the beginning and go to the end my friend. Opportunity waits for no one. You hate your job now. You have hated your job for a very long time. Granted it is scary to leave a place where it has become very comfortable, but other than that, I can see no reason for you to stay.

You will feel a bit scared but so damn liberated!! You'll be taking back control of your own life and giving yourself a chance for happiness and fulfillment that has been missing for so long.

Do it, babe with no regrets. Embrace a new world with open arms and your very open heart and be happy!!

Thanks for the encouragement, Shewolf. And for the record, you're definitely NOT a dork.

Soz, I have talked to a couple agencies, and I've talked to people who are already freelancing, and they seem to be saying that the jobs are starting to come back. They say that it was really tight for the past two years, but that now things are starting to open up again.

It's not back like it was in the late 90s, of course, but really, that was probably something that we won't see again for a looong time, if ever again. Jobs were like apples then...I could just walk down the street and pick any one I wanted.

Lady J, thank you!

But I'm scairt! I need to figure out exactly what I'm going to tell my boss first. That will make it easier, I think.

you dont have to get personal with your boss.
Your reasons for leaving dont effect your ability to use them for a work referrance.
you can tell him you are leaving for a sex change if y ou so choose.
Your work performance is all you have with them that matters.
You can just walk into his/her office, say " Im sorry but changes are happening in my home life. The result is that I have to leave. Here is my resignation. Is there anything i can finish up for you before my 2 weeks are up that will help? "

and stop there.

Are you worried about finances during the transition?
are there any larger bills you can either disperse over a few montsh to bring the initial amount down? Bills that can be paid late that wont hurt you? Friends who would be willing to help with housing if you have to move so you can save money with out having to pay for a down payment , security deposit..etc..?
how long do you think it will take to get a new job?

I'm not really worried about anything specific. It's just the not knowing. I have enough money (but what is "enough", anyway?), and I have NO debt at all. I'm good like that.

As for how long it will take to get another job, if I go freelance, I should be able to get short-term assignments--one day here, three days there, a week maybe at another place--almost immediately, if I want. As for another real full-time job, who knows? That's where the scary part comes into play.

I think it's about time you became a bum. Besides cockroaches are full of nutrients and you can supplement your income with your weekend job [dancing as a she-male, Kinky-can]. You will stride right into boss-office and tell him, as shewolfnm suggested:



Mucho exciting things on the horizon for you m'lad, and all of them can be treated with penicillen. Good luck now!

Thanks, Heeven! By the way, can I bunk down with you for a couple weeks until I get back on my feet? And do you have any money I can borrow? Or food?

Wait! I've got it! I will be your Jerry Hall! You will be my "kept man".

I've left four jobs that I didn't like.
Except for the first one, each time I left I had someplace else to go
already lined up. (The "Wingwalker Principle": never let go of one thing
until you have damn good hold on the other.)
Each time I left it was scary.
Each time I left it was worth it.
(Even the first time when I had to move back in at home for a couple of
months).
Get that resume polished up and go for it.

Ooooh, kept man!
Can't turn that down.