Just thought I'd report back to give a quick update to anyone who is still interested. Hubby and I went through with it in the end, picked someone from a swingers site and I've seen him twice already. First time hubby was there and saw some of it, the second time it was just me and the guy, but I recorded some of it for my OH. I really like the bull and I can see myself dating him for quite some time, hubby is delighted and TBH I'm having the time of my life, I never thought I'd be able to enjoy sex that much again at my age.
I posted a long thread about the recent events of a women's forum, to my disappointment the whole thread was subsequently removed after people reported it as "inappropriate". I was shocked by their hypocrisy, they happily followed the whole story and hardy made any contributions, then suddenly and for no apparent reason decided to be offended by it just because I was telling it like it was, no holds barred. I was trying to show what an experience like this can be like for a regular housewife from the Scottish Highlands, maybe inspire other women to follow suit, but clearly women get jealous when others get to fulfil their fantasies. I think secretly they'd love to do the same but haven't got the guts to go through with it, so they can't stand to hear that others are making a success of it.
I'm really, really loving it and don't want it to stop, hubby wants me to look for other bulls but I'm quite happy with this guy just now, I think he's spectacular - or maybe I'd just forgotten what good sex feels like....
I don't know if other women will ever read this thread, if they do I want to leave this last thought: if your husband is asking for this and you are not sure if it can ever work out, take it from me, it can. Of course this is only my personal experience and I'm not going to say that it will always work for everyone, I'm sure there's plenty of real life examples of it going horribly wrong. However for us, with plenty of communication, preparation and ultimately love and support, I can honestly say it's going better than I ever thought possible. I just wish I hadn't denied myself this quality of sex for so long. Now trying my best to catch up!