Did I make a mistake by letting him go ?

Now debra_law has made me feel like I'm some kind of a Slut or something. I know I moved my relationship with Craig too quickley and thats why I stopped before I made the mistake of actually having sex with him. My education is very important to me also Debra I mean I make straight A's and everything. I get outstanding scores on my SAT's. I still do everything like a normal teenager would do. I think I kind of understand why I am like I am. I hate where I live. I feel as if my parents don't want me here. Well I know for a fact that my mom doesn't want me here because she told me that already. Could all of this be the reason why I moved so fast ? I am having a very difficult time understand all of this???? Oh and I forget who asked but I was having a sexual relationship with Craig when I was 12 years of age.

I think it's despicable that you're advising a child that she was probably sexually abused by her father (or someone else).

Sexual abuse is outrageous and intolerable. However, false allegations of sexual abuse are even MORE outrageous and intolerable. Those are the types of unsubstantiated allegations that can ruin people's lives. And now this kid is thinking it's possible: that maybe she has repressed memories and doesn't know what to think. If she needs therapy now, it's probably because you're the one who is planting allegations without a shred of evidence.

I see a child who is too eager to grow up, dating too young, and sneaking around with a 24-year-old adult male. She should be concentrating on her education. She should be developing her skills and knowledge. She should be working on becoming a well-rounded individual. Instead, she involves herself in adult relationships when she doesn't have the adult mentality necessary to balance a relationship with the rest of her life.

Your suggestion that this girl may have been sexually abused--and is repressing the memory--is a mere suggestion without any factual basis. It is a highly-damaging suggestion.

Many parents have been sued, and some are in jail. To quote the Wall Street Journal:

A decline in public respect for the presumption of
innocence is no minor matter. A society that lets a
notion like "recovered memory" gain such force that it
overwhelms its most basic judicial principles has waded
into deep and dangerous waters.[11]

Often clergy members have been accused, and one of the most celebrated cases of "recovered memory" was Steven J. Cook's allegations and lawsuit against Cardinal Joseph Barnardin of Chicago. On February 28, 1994, Steven Cook dismissed the case saying that his memories, which arose during and after hypnosis, were unreliable.[12]

Accused father Gary Ramona, of Napa, California fought back. Following recovered memory therapy, his daughter Holly made accusations that cost him his job and his marriage. He sued his daughters's therapists and was awarded $500,000.[13]

In research and therapy, as in life, there is always a danger of finding what you are looking for, whether it's there or not. Thus scientists take precautions when doing research, to avoid having their expectations bias their results. A drug would require double-blind placebo-controlled studies before being released. But repressed memory therapists fail to take these precautions, and no such tests were done on this kind of therapy before turning it loose on the public. The scientific tests that have been done since its release have not been favorable.[14]

Child abuse does occur, but it is being aggressively sought even when there is little or no evidence for it. There is a danger of crying wolf--we may return to a time when no allegations of abuse are believed. In response to this, the False Memory Syndrome Foundation was founded in Philadelphia in 1992.[15] It is supported by eminent psychiatrists and its task, according to science writer Martin Gardner, is "to combat the greatest witch hunt and mental health scandal of this half century."

If she was not, we have no explanation for her behavior.